I'll never understand families

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I'll never understand how someone so loving can be so cruel and unsupportive. I'll never understand how adults can laugh and make light of their own memories of siblings crushing them when I can't. I always thought I wasn't twisted enough. But I never will understand those things. I might just prevent myself from having a family myself, in order to keep from further confusion.

I don't understand most family dynamics either

People laugh at abuse because it's better than crying. I don't understand STUPID or CRAZY families like a LOT of you here have, but I love the sane (in my opinion) ones that actually put each other before everything and everyone else and pay attention to each other and do great things together.

Give yourself more credit. "Normal" people are just better at repressing their sadness and anger. In the long run that just hurts them more because repressed feelings always come back to haunt them in destructive and confusing ways. They'll go on to abuse others thinking its normal or even funny, but your differences just make you a more considerate and thoughtful person.

Even just the memories can make me tear up or send me into an eating frenzy.

Back when I had my first and at this point, most likely my only girlfriend, she said to me a couple of times that I had no sense of family. Because Her family had big family gatherings at least once a week, most times a couple of times a week. I would get bored and not want to do that family stuff all the time so I would be frustrated. I did not know I had AS at the time so I really did not know what she meant. Now that I know I have AS I do. I don't understand the need for familes to be together all the time.

I will never understand why a family will turn their collective backs on one of its members for whom everything has gone to s*** through no fault of his own.

I will never understand why a family will later claim to have always "been there" for that member, when every time that member asked for their help the answer was always, "No".

I will never understand why a family will openly wonder why that member moved far away and rarely contacts them any more after that member eventually got back on his feet through his own efforts and without their support.

I will never understand families.