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Aspie with ADHD. I am an Aspie without ADHD. So let us look at the definition of ADHD
Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is marked by an ongoing pattern of inattention and/or hyperactivity-impulsivity that interferes with functioning or development. People with ADHD experience an ongoing pattern of the following types of symptoms:
-- Inattention means a person may have difficulty staying on task, sustaining focus, and staying organized, and these problems are not due to defiance or lack of comprehension.
-- Hyperactivity means a person may seem to move about constantly, including in situations when it is not appropriate, or excessively fidgets, taps, or talks. In adults, hyperactivity may mean extreme restlessness or talking too much.
-- Impulsivity means a person may act without thinking or have difficulty with self-control. Impulsivity could also include a desire for immediate rewards or the inability to delay gratification. An impulsive person may interrupt others or make important decisions without considering long-term consequences.
In my humble opinion, this is a condition caused by stress. Many people who experience meltdowns shift between different parts of their brain. Stress is the driver for this condition. Humans are one of the most complex creatures that have ever existed. In general, the way to offload stress is to be yourself. It doesn't make you many friends but the few you have left will be friends for life.
In my humble opinion there are two tools that you can use to offload stress. First is exercise. Perform strenuous exercise for at least 30 minutes a day. Second is sleep. Humans need around 2 hours of deep sleep each night in order to dissolve the stress away. This is Deep NREM sleep and REM sleep. Some of your brains function during the daytime but others function during the night.