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03 Apr 2025, 4:44 pm

Is it typical for people with ASD to have imposter syndrome? I've struggled with it all my life and I feel it's held me back quite a bit.



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03 Apr 2025, 5:06 pm

Don't know if it's especially common in Aspies, but I've certainly got a bit of it. I often feel that people might find out what I'm really like and get angry about it. But I'd think they already know, as much as they know what anybody's really like.

I suppose with some of us it could be the result of that "masking" thing we're supposed to be doing. But I don't think I mask any more than other people do. I don't just let fly with anything that comes into my head, because I try to be a bit considerate. Most people do a bit of self-presentation. Maybe it's the tension of having to do the appropriate inhibitions. The ASD pathological honesty thing might be telling us it's wrong. But I think it's right, or at least it's wise and part of caring about people. And the older I get, the less disconnect there is between my immediate thoughts and what I say. I don't think I'm much more immediate than I ever was, I think I've just learned to like people more so there's less brutality in my honesty.



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03 Apr 2025, 5:37 pm

Many people with ASD deal with imposter syndrome, feeling like they’re not good enough even when they are.


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03 Apr 2025, 5:51 pm

I've always had it. Mainly manifests through work. I always feel like I'm this close to getting found out. Airways waiting for someone to notice how bad I am at everything and drop me or refuse to pay me. It sucks.


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03 Apr 2025, 6:28 pm

ToughDiamond wrote:
Don't know if it's especially common in Aspies, but I've certainly got a bit of it. I often feel that people might find out what I'm really like and get angry about it. But I'd think they already know, as much as they know what anybody's really like.

I suppose with some of us it could be the result of that "masking" thing we're supposed to be doing. But I don't think I mask any more than other people do. I don't just let fly with anything that comes into my head, because I try to be a bit considerate. Most people do a bit of self-presentation. Maybe it's the tension of having to do the appropriate inhibitions. The ASD pathological honesty thing might be telling us it's wrong. But I think it's right, or at least it's wise and part of caring about people. And the older I get, the less disconnect there is between my immediate thoughts and what I say. I don't think I'm much more immediate than I ever was, I think I've just learned to like people more so there's less brutality in my honesty.
My girlfriend is on the spectrum & has it. She was taught by family to be a major people pleaser & she also can not lie so that's probably some of it.


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I've always had it. Mainly manifests through work. I always feel like I'm this close to getting found out. Airways waiting for someone to notice how bad I am at everything and drop me or refuse to pay me. It sucks.
Us Aspies do tend to have problems finding & maintaining employment & that along with the various social problems with others causes some of us to feel we need to overcompensate for our weaknesses however we can because we know it might be very difficult for us to find another job or one with similar pay & benefits.


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03 Apr 2025, 7:40 pm

I don't.

I may even have the inverse (not necessarily opposite) of imposter syndrome; both perks and problems that came with such.


To myself;
Primarily because I don't mask.

Ranging from pure authenticity to not pleasing. Yet it's not as all-good as it sounded. It is also meant not trying to not hiding.

But not for reasons related to apathy towards what people think and would find out, but reasons related to unreliability regardless of what everyone thinks.


Towards others;
Another reason is because I practically made a mission to demystify everything around me.

Thus I made to be as if that everyone around me has a form of imposter syndrome, and has an intention to see through whatever masks other people have.


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