Women aren't attracted to autistic men

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Maybe. But if it's a generalization, why has no woman I've met in over 2 decades ever wanted to date me? Why did I watch everyone else around me was dating and getting married and starting families, while I was the only person nobody wants? If not all women agree on this, how have I managed to go my entire life without meeting any of these women?

Do you have anyone in your life who might know what you could change or work on? You might want to start a separate thread on your dating goals specifically.

Just because they don't date you, doesn't mean they aren't attracted to all autistic men.

I'm autistic and I've had several dates the past few months. This doesn't speak to my experience personally.

It seems like you're attributing your lack of dates to a thing you can't control (i.e. your neurotype), rather than on the many things you can control.

It would be really convenient to believe that you're not doing anything wrong and everyone is just discriminating agaisnt you, but that's not the mindset that's going to improve your situation.

There's a high chance they found something off-putting in some way. That doesn't mean you made mistakes or done anything bad though.

I did a lot of generalizing & was very bitter when I was single & I had some majorly negative accusations applied to me when I posted about it on various forums in the past including this one but the others putting words in my mouth so to speak & applying insulting labels was worse on other forums than here which is partly why I stayed. I have not been violent with anyone since I quit being physically bullied in middle-school. I'm a lot happier & more laid back being in a long-term relationship which of coarse goes against the typical advice of needing to be happy on your own before you can be happy with a partner. I actually felt kind of good about myself despite being very aware of my various flaws & I was trying my best to work on myself how I could but I was very painfully aware that I could never measures up to most others & would be rejected for it which of coarse hurt.


My romantic partner is my special interest & has been for as long as we've been together which is about 13 years now. Both my exes were my special interests as well when I was with them.


I met all three of my girlfriends on online forums & the relationships were long distance at first. My first girlfriend was on a forum for a common interest & the other two were on this one. I posted quite a lot here before I got my second gf though. I had kinda just lucked into my first relationship & we became best friends before she told me she liked me. My current PMed me shortly after my 2nd broke up with me(breakup was partly due to distance & her being dependent on family to afford college) & my current actually thought I sounded like a great catch but Cass often says she does not understand other women & she has various issues unrelated to autism in addition to autism.

I have in the past, and I remember being bad at it. Particularly, I don't understand their cues, small talk, and often don't have anything to say since I don't know them. It gets uncomfortable for everyone.

Have you ever gotten good at something without practising it?

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Cornflake wrote:

This thread is both generalizing and sexist; it's also ground that's been trodden here many times over with the same result - irritated members watching the same tired assertions and accusations being wheeled out yet again, and members feeling like they've been pushed into a box to suit some argument being made. Find something more productive to do that doesn't involve exhuming the same old hurtful generalizations. Locked.