Setting boundaries when you have a disability, article.

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14 Apr 2025, 12:24 am

I found this very helpful and informative, as well as reliable. I figured some of you would find this article helpful also.

Here is the link:

https://www.trend-able.com/boundary-set ... g%20crappy.

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14 Apr 2025, 3:09 am

Thank You .. a Brilliant we site. For those differently Abled . :mrgreen:

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14 Apr 2025, 7:54 am

Very good reminder. I need reminders at times because life demands we be in the moment too often.

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17 Apr 2025, 6:32 pm

I can't fault it. I suppose it's just something I've always more or less done, protecting my own well-being. I'm often fairly quiet about it though. If somebody annoys me like that I'll often just take steps to render the deed impossible in future. Passive-defensive rather than passive-aggressive.

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17 Apr 2025, 8:48 pm

ToughDiamond wrote:

That's a good idea,ToughDiamond.

I am trying not to create any new grudges against anyone. When I get burned I simply say to myself "duly noted" and try to move on with life. Going low - no contact is often the best option in those circumstances, but unfortunately if you are reliant on someone for help because of your disability that may be difficult or close to impossible.

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18 Apr 2025, 2:14 pm

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Where do you need boundaries in your life?

Ask yourself the following:

When you think through the people in your life, who makes you anxious, annoyed, or frustrated? Like if this person called right now, you’d feel a wash of negative emotion.

What topics drain your energy? I’m talking about repeat topics mostly. Whenever someone asks how you’re feeling? Or if you really need that mobility aid? Or why you’re so tired all the time.

What physical activities leave you exhausted or in more pain? Does wandering the mall sound like torture? Does standing at a bar all evening leave you wracked in pain tomorrow?

The answers to these questions are the people, topics, and activities around which you should look at setting boundaries.

I've read a lot on boundaries, but these questions were what I needed. They made me realize where I need to place the boundary rather than consider vague hypotheticals or instances from the past when I should have put boundaries.

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24 Apr 2025, 7:12 am

good one, thanks for the post!

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24 Apr 2025, 5:01 pm

autisticelders wrote:

good one, thanks for the post!

You're welcome, I'm happy you enjoyed it.

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