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Anyone who saw my return post knows my circumstance, but a layman summary to the uninformed. I got a girlfriend in college, we got married, and she sadly died a little over a year ago. Free trivia: I first saw the tombstone with both of our names on it on my birthday last year. I was merely mistaken when I thought my birthday the year before that was the most depressing, but I digress.

I don't intend or have any interest in dating anyone. However, I do wonder how others feel on the general prospect. Which sparks my hypothetical query. If like me, you are married and your spouse dies, would you ever seek to date anyone again? Or simply refrain from such entirely?

A note I will add that I myself plan on: I don't intend to shun any and all social interaction. I still wish to enjoy the company of friends as well as meeting new friends. I simply have no interest in any form of romantic or physical relationship.

Okay the way I see it is when I FINALLY get married and my husband dies I will not seek out another romantic relationship!! !

This is for 2 reasons:

-Out of respect for the deceased spouse
-Dating/Courting is too slow & time-consuming

Those two reasons are high in my list against it. Another reason is just the present culture of this age. I know not everyone is as socially liberal, in regard to drinking, drugs, and other things, but I was lucky to find someone with similar enough views to my own. We didn't agree on every single thing, but the core areas we did. I also appreciate the label of courting, reminds me of ye old mount and blade a game of butter, kingdom building, and maidens.

An aside, I only recently returned from work and have been awake since 03:30. My regular filters are probably still inactive