How come some people still get married rather young ?

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Both my grandparents got married in 1960 and 1961 (two at 20 and 21 and the other at 23 and 24). I understand it was a different time then and back then it would have been seen as ''strange'' if you were not out of the house and with a wife or husband by that age. I have still seen people of my generation who got married early when I seem to think generations of today don't get married in their early 20s. I have a cousin who got married at 22, I think she was at the time and are still together over 15 years later and my stepmum's daughter got married when she and her husband were 23 and 25 and also still together 15 years later. It has made me feel sometimes that getting married during that stage of life is still considered ''ideal'' when it seems that the median age for marriage now is late 20s/early 30s. During my early 20s, getting married wasn't even remotely on my mind.

I dunno mate
It baffles me why anyone would want to be married in this day and age

It may make a lot of sense if you have a husband with a good job that will support the family and parents who will help raise the child.

Teen pregnancy.

Because they want to?

My theory is that they believe in no sex before marriage but they're super horny so they get married real quick.

They find someone willing to marry them? They fall in love and that is the logical conclusion? They think the opportunity might never come to them again? Probably lots of reasons.

You say that marriage wasn't on your radar in your 20s, but it also sounds like in other posts that you now regret not being married or in a serious relationship. So it seems like maybe you wish it had been on your radar then.

I'm not wanting to turn this thread into a political debate but I've known a bit of people who got married partly to get on their spouse's health insurance plan. Before Obamacare private health insurance companies were allowed to discriminate against people with preexisting health issues by denying them the option to buy coverage or dropping their coverage or charging a lot more to buy coverage. However employer sponsored health insurance plans did not discriminate against preexisting conditions & if an employee had health insurace through their employer their spouse was allowed to buy into that coverage by paying a bit more. Hard-core conservative areas tend to have major negative stigma against Obamacare & some people are not aware or do not fully understand that private health insurances are no longer allowed to discriminate against preexisting conditions. Thus some people with health issues are sometimes still chosing to get married instead of living together unmarried partly to get on their spouse's health insurance plan.

After ten years of marriage one gets widow/widower social security benefits when the survivor turns 60.
There are also clearly defined rules on how property gets passed to the surviving spouse.

If you aren't married and your partner dies without a will you only get co-owned property like a house or car in both names.

If you own a 401k make sure the designated beneficiary is up to date after a divorce.
You may want it to go to a charity instead of the hated ex.

^it's NOT a race!! !

We all have different timelines for life experiences (like marriage)!

I wanted to get married young so I could have sex because I am church of Christ. I would of gotten married at 18 or early 20's if I would have been able to support a wife and kids.

Thought to add that some people get married partly for immigration reasons like if they are in a long distance relationship with someone in another country or someone is staying in another country temporarily for an extended period & get in a serious relationship. Being married can make immigrating easier with the legal red-tape as opposed to living together unmarried.

Because they insist on being miserable and want to place major barriers to breaking that goal in case they get a wild desire to be happy. Having the courts impede on any separation and decide how to divide assets is a proven way to maintain a sense of misery through any periods of personal desire for growth or peace.