Do you feel you show too much affection

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Autistics are typically known for not showing a lot of affection or too much affection. I been in both categories. I remember someone in my christian men's home had told me I smother him too much after we were just seemingly getting along perfectly.

I always enjoyed hugs. People who think we don't like hugs or handshakes don't know a lot of autstics. I don't hug everyone unless I feel a close bond with them. Some guys aren't huggers and even some females aren't either, but most females I talk to think it's sweet rather than perverted when I hug.

When it comes to guys I tend to hug those who gives off a warm, gentle vibe. Guys who are macho and rough I don't typically hug unless they offer it.

I've gotten flack for hugging too much, but I have stepped back and not do it so much. I still give fistbumps and handshakes, but regardless I'm an affectionate person. Some find it too much, but I feel that it's a part of who I am.

I love being touched too, and I never turn down a hug.

I'm overaffectionate with my partner too, though it isn't because I don't know boundaries, because I do. I just get an impulsive urge to wrap him up in my arms, sometimes attack him with cuddles and kisses. He does appreciate it, because he's never really been adored like that by his previous wife, as she just used him for his money.

When I was a child I was the most affectionate out of my siblings, and I was the only one with ASD.

Yes. I’m performing a balancing act at all times.

If I lean too far right, it’s a hate crime. Too far left, it’s a love crime. If I'm too robotic or perfectionist, I’m flagged as "suspicious activity" and asked to complete a CAPTCHA to prove I’m not a psycho perfectionist of some sort. Not easy this being human lark.