What do you hate the most about having autism/aspergers ?

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Nice topic CapedOwl,

My biggest hurdle is the simple fact that everything(social) takes more steps and effort, in both directions (me to them or them to me).

bonus addon-opinion: I am of the firm belief that nothing has only 1 side, i.e. there is at least 1 positive and 1 negative side to everything worthwhile. I.e.: I have come to accept that there is no good without bad, etc...
And the same here, as much as I can sometimes curse everything about the world, how it is and how I am, I cannot but also be grateful, and would honestly not want to trade places with any NT-peer

kind regards,
Kada

I'm starting to change my tune now. The only thing I hate about autism is the fact that I was diagnosed in childhood. I just know things would have been different if I hadn't of been. But that's just personally speaking, I'm not speaking for anyone else. Just in my circumstances in my experience I know things would have been better if I hadn't been diagnosed so young.

When people just give up on you understanding and say "it's not important". Maybe it isn't- but is it so wrong that I want to know what is going on/what people are really feeling about your words or actions.

Mine is just a matter of profile preference.
Not cognitive, but emotional.

I never like the fact that I did not get the type of autism with alexithymia, preferably that has little to no affective empathy to put up and regulate -- since there's no strong enough executive function to compensate into cognitive empathy to balance it.

So instead of going into a concrete more of thinking, focus on executive functions, put whatever internal sensory issues into a way side, I get "too emotional" with distorted emotional crapity that never reflects real life.



Well...
I now know not know much how much this applies to me now that I had granted a wish to never spiral.

I just hate the fact that it took basically more than 20+ years to reach this point for me to ever start feeling and being more of my willful self than this "body's noises" or that "whatever the limbic system all it never knew".

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So, you're familiar with reaching the point where you've ran out of ways to rephrase something for someone else, or have they always eventually gotten it?

I feel like once a person has run out of ways to rephrase something they have no real choice but to stop investing more energy because all that will happen is them becoming more frustrated.[/quote]


If I can't figure out how to communicate, I end up asking for help as others have different/more relatable ideas. But yes, a lot of times I end up feeling like a failure for not saying something in a way a 'normal person' would understand.
(Unrelated- me who has always been so gullible- I read your location and start to look over my shoulder every time!)

Yeah, it's frustrating, but I feel like once you've been on both sides of that situation it's easier both to handle being in the explainer's shoes, and in the one who doesn't get it's shoes.

Basically, you're not stupid for failing to understand an explanation, and they're not a jerk for giving up.

Communication deficits are pretty typical for autism, but often you can figure out what was being communicated afterwards, either by asking more people, or gaining some experience with the problem, or some other means.[/quote]


Intellectually I agree completely, and I know that I am not a burden- however I have not gotten over the years of thinking I am, so the feelings remain. I need to work on it, it's kinda the genre of internalized ableism I have more generally as well.