All,
Sorry to intrude with my rant here, but I truly would value your feedback/suggestions on following topic:
It is to my ever growing annoyment (slowly moving towards anger), that I've notice the following:
Me and most of my ND friends value a person, based on our last interactions; i.e. if they display, positive, pro-active solution based actions and thinking I will like you and keep a positive regard for that person. Even if we have no more interactions for years, next time we meet up, I'll continue based of of this unchanged perception. to me this seems like the correct moral way to be colleagues, friends, heck just human...
But no, my NT friends keep insisting that I "devalue" the person if they are not socially engaged with me, pro-actively interacting with me... And when I try and indicate to them that this seems to go against values they themselves seem to hold dear, ... nothing... or gibberish... sigh...
I've noticed them actively doing this as well, even to their parents or siblings. Statements to the effect of: "yeah, I've always liked them, but since they moved, it's like they changed, I never even hear from them again." and yes I understand that you cannot keep engaged with everyone especially if you are miles apart. But again, No need to 'perform' the mental gymnastics required to pro-activly "downgrade" them in your mind...
i find this very hard to deal with and am curious to your opinions and ways to aproach this?
many thanks and kind regards
Kada,
Yesterday, 2:07 am
