What would your ideal/perfect day look like?

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Dear all,

I hope to start this topic, hoping to glean some insight on what makes us happy/Content/motivated...
I have read through many issues and troubles we face in our little corner of society, but am hoping to also get a better feel for our common positives. As I do not often get to be in a quite so diverse company of peers as here on the forum, perhaps this could yield some insights...

I propose following format (feel free to not follow it )
Format:

1. help by indicating briefly your place in the spectrum:

-> For me, this would be: I'm a late (45Yo) diagnosed high masking, type 1, ASD peer of 50years old now, with no ADHD diagnosis. Dad of 3 young adults and working a specialist ICT-job.

2. After having an ideal, perfect day (whatever this entails for you), what is the dominating feeling/retrospect you would like to be left with?

-> for me, this would be a feeling of accomplishment. Yes, I'm a buy-in to meritocracy; as I have the most fond and warm memories of days or events where I was able to contribute in someway to a successful result that actually helped or boosted someone(s)

3. Feel free to fantasize, from disc-world, to strict reality, to ... What would your ideal/perfect day look like?

-> For me;
-It would start with a non alarm clock/natural awakening alone in bed.
-A big breakfast (or brunch ) together with my children, I have no stress or mask when being around them,
and I love hearing their view and experiences.
-Followed by in dip in the heated pool (I don't have) and drying off in the warm sun on a sunny day in the shade of
a willow tree in our garden.
-Next, together we start to tackle a big but non time-bound project (what comes to mind immediately is a new
part of the garden we wish fence of for our pet donkey (an inheritance from a farmer uncle))
-Followed again by a dip in the pool to refresh us.
-And a very lazy LAN party, where we all get to propose a game and all get played in sequence.
-After the last game of the night, a solo night walk by a shore (sea, river, lake ocean, whatever...)
-Fresh clean bedsheets to fall asleep in.

curious to see your feedback

have fun
Kada

My perfect day would be my second inauguration day as the first Libertarian President of the United States but dont worry that obviously will never happen.

Than you maestro TexasMoneyMan,

I like the far reaching dreams and would like to indicate that for me; there’s a difference between having a dream and losing yourself in fantasy. A healthy dream is a vision that inspires real-world action and improvement, not an escape from reality.

When you use your dreams as motivation to take steps—however small—toward a better life, you’re harnessing hope productively.Losing yourself in dreams without action is unhelpful, but the act of dreaming itself is not the problem; as with most complex topics, it’s how you relate to those dreams that matters.

I'm not sure.

Only that I'm living the best days I know so far at the moment.

And if I wanted more...

... That would be me earning more than enough to survive on my own.

Doesn't matter what job.

-Wake up on time, actually feel refreshed and no rushing through a schedule.
-Actually use said time to prep food, clean ups and dress up.
-Work without a single mistake.
-Don't get tired and have more than enough energy to do something else.
-Not spend on anything, indulges is unneeded since there's no crap to deal or to bury.
-Do whatever and spend said time and energy for enjoyment, projects, self improvement or upskilling and further self care instead of only "winding down" for several hours.
-That my free time is actually my free time, not work, not 'impulshit' time, not 'reeling off' time, not even stupid unnecessary "maintenance" times that my body or head had been whining over and over.
-Actually sleep, lay down on any bed without any damnable congestion, hyperacidity or some stupid disruptor.

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I just want to potter about in a quiet cottage or bungalow that's surrounded by garden and no neighbours, and be rich enough to not have to go to work. Or, to earn money, just sit and do my arts and crafts every day or write books. This lifestyle is so wonderful and I panic that I'll never get to have it. Instead I just have to soldier on in cleaning jobs where I have to remember to follow stupid petty rules and work fully-clothed in 30 Celsius temperatures and have to put up with bullies who look down on me because I'm only good for cleaning and not earning a fantastic wage like they are.

Edna and Tamaya,

Thank you both for sharing some great and motivating ideal/perfect and feedback.
From both of you I gather a feeling that I've also felt in many of the ASD peer groups I try and participate in:
ASD peers or even more general people who need, due to their circumstances, to "do battle" with society/life generally give a much more "modest" answer to questions about hopes and dreams.

and I do not mean to phrase this in a competitive manner, i.e. one dream is not "better" than another, I'm just remarking that NT peers are, probably because of our learned experience and innate differences more closely aligned with realistic endeavors.

to me life has always been about small steps, sometimes very small steps, and trying not to look beyond the reach of 1 step at a time, so I fully concur

kind regards,
Kada

Here's my perfect day. I wake up nice and early, feeling well-rested. I hear birdsong out the window - not traffic, or machinery. I look out the window. Oh look, it's a family of snowy owls on the tree branch right outside the window! We all stare at each other for about 5 minutes. Then I go to the kitchen, and make a double-shot of espresso on my $5000 Espresso machine. I look at the news. So many great things happened! Wow, the headlines are cause for such great joy today! I think I'm going to explode with happiness:
- The entire IT industry throws up their hands in defeat: we give up on AI! Let's pull all those AI features ASAP, they were stupid.
- Microsoft Open Sources Windows
- MS Excel is no longer the dominant spreadsheet. It's LibreOffice, with its .ods format. There was a great AI breakthrough you see, perfectly converting all .xls and .xlsx files into perfect .ods, complete with functional macros now implimented in python instead. This was one of those rare great use-cases of AI which made sense (in addition to real-time translating of languages)
- All PC makers have decided to standardize around shipping Debian as the default OS (although for a small fee, you can have any distro you ask for pre-installed).
- The perfect totally Open Source smartphone is invented.
- A new worldwide law is passed that no new computer hardware shall be sold on the open market, until non-buggy, carefully-reviewed drivers are merged into the mainline linux kernel.
- Apple is bankrupted, after that meteorite suprisingly landed on their headquarters last week. And (perhaps a coincidence, perhaps not) this was not long after the grave of Steve jobs was desecrated by a coven of satanic lesbian witches.
- A worldwide law is passed that you must stop using the FAT, VFAT, exFAT and NTFS filesystems by next month, or go to jail for a year. A mad rush to convert to sane filesystems like EXT4 and BTRFS ensues, and every linux geek under the sun starts making huge, easy money just copying files around to all the NAS's they build out of Raspberry Pis and used PCs.

I eat leftover loaded Pizza for breakfast. A new, enormous pizza will arrive for lunch, and it'll be pizza for supper again, not to mention enough leftovers to cover breakfast tomorrow as well.

My morning is puttered away, just meditating, doing yoga, and other forms of self-care, with no particular schedule to speak of.

My afternoon is spent hiking with a giant flask of yet more coffee (and water), laughing hard at all those headlines every 5 minutes or so. Every rare bird imaginable is of course seen in these cool, secluded forest hiking trails, where there are no other people. Squirrels also abound, cheerfully.

The evening is spent in meaningful conversation with friends - not small talk. Insight is had, and a relaxed atmosphere is maintained. This conversation doesn't exceed my limit of about 2 hours around other people, where I start to feel too wearied. Everyone goes home, retiring at a sane hour, and it's early to bed again, satisfied with the day.

@CapedOwl
Maestro CapedOwl,

Amazing! With my afternoon coffee in hand, I saw a follow-up from you clicked it and per-chance read the line: "- Microsoft Open Sources Windows" Coffee spurted out my nose and I laughed aloud! Nice one!
I see we share a common dream
Myself I'm a bit more into BSD (my fallback when I realize MS DOS was not cutting it) than Debian, but yes LibreOffice all the way! (my colleagues cannot stop expression their amazement when I did not use visio when making a flowchart or network diagram. )
As our ages are close together, we have lived through similar ICT marketing-hypes: from Apple, to Windows, to NT(fs) , to SDN, to Cloud, to AI, ... aaah yes the bloatware parade continues to both of our dismay... unfortunately.
I fully agree that these headlines you see would brighten up my day as well.

Thank you for a great insight and in future I'll incorporate your topic of a meaningful conversation with friends for up to 2 hours, as that does indeed seem a nice addition to an anxiety free day.

kind regards,
Kada