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CapedOwl
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19 Jun 2025, 4:48 am

kadanuumuu wrote:
Maestro CapedOwl,
Thank you for your kind words and I often find myself reading your posts with equal interest and fervor.
great minds think alike,... and so do ours apparently ... ;)
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Congrats on your mantra; I fully understand what you mean. The fact that we have to stay in our row-boat and can never just 'ride the waves' as you stated is another great analogism.
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Thank you as well for bringing up 'anchoring', this is a handy technique that I try to use as well. And also a demonstration of why I am grateful; the fact that we can do/apply this.
We walk the same path under the same sky, yet the stars we see are different — and in that difference lies the quiet miracle of being human together.

Thanks so much for the compliments, and it's nice to connect! Yes, I agree there's affinity here. I find your posts very enjoyable, thoughtful and insightful. (I've noticed you also do a great job of being an embassador to the new users arriving. Much appreciated!)


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19 Jun 2025, 10:14 am

CapedOwl wrote:
Thanks so much for the compliments, and it's nice to connect! Yes, I agree there's affinity here. I find your posts very enjoyable, thoughtful and insightful. (I've noticed you also do a great job of being an embassador to the new users arriving. Much appreciated!)


Same for you maestro, thank you for helping and sharing your experiences.



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19 Jun 2025, 10:42 am

All of us have differing strengths and weaknesses. I used to be a serious ultramarathon runner whos' hoping to get back into it. I didn't fit in in team sports and I took to drinking with colleagues when I was about 20, as it helped me fit in. But then I discovered running and hiking, two sports that suited me perfectly and made me happy.

I also took to Scrabble, and just returned from a highly successful day back to back double tournament, securing a good 4th position in both. I love learning weird non everyday words, and that helps a lot.

I would encourage all of us to find where we fit in and are good at, and where we can find acceptance. I have learned so much since my late diagnosis at 45!


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19 Jun 2025, 10:47 am

I hate that I've been in denial of it for so long, thinking it was my enemy


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20 Jun 2025, 2:57 am

id say being misunderstood leading to systematic excusion and basically leavign me isolated (isolation being my defining i believe feature of my autism over social deficit, which i see myself as more extroverted and NT's seem asocial to me)



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Yesterday, 8:42 pm

my utter lack of social awareness at points makes me endlessly writhe in pain whenever i realize i've had a moment involving that sorta thing. nobody ever tells me unless they're a specific kind of person and by the time they do tell me they're typically i think pretty annoyed. i generally don't like myself socially so that doesn't help either, i guess.



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Yesterday, 10:56 pm

1. Making me oblivious to social rules, not talking enough or too much. I've solved the too much part by limiting how much I talk.


2. Always feeling like I'm about to be yelled at or corrected for every little thing. It doesn't happen much these days but the feeling is still there.

3. Obsessing over things and excessive worrying about stuff I can't control

4. having nothing in common with most people, at my interests are a bit odd or they are intense that if I start talking about them, it might scare people as I know so much about them. It's nothing bad I assure you.

5. Having to mask and/or script a lot of things socially.