I believe that people who are conventionally, objectively, good looking find the world an easier place to navigate. I'm talking about tiny little things that add up to a better experience - like people being more likely to help you in small ways, more likely to smile at you, more likely to forgive small transgressions. That sort of thing.
But also bigger things, I've seen attractive people being given jobs over less attractive, but more capable people. I think that's probably largely subconscious, but there's a value to an employer in having good-looking employees too in terms of customer engagement.
What I'm trying to get at is that I wonder whether this accumulation of goodwill over a lifetime leads better looking people to feel that they are more accomplished than they would be if they were less good looking and to attribute this accomplishment to their abilities and hard work over their appearance (of which they may not be fully aware). Maybe it gives them higher expectations, less inclination to compromise, higher self esteem and, yes, higher self-regard.
Maybe this comes across as 'snootiness' to others?
As to why you find that attractive, if I'm going to psych 101 you, I'd be wondering if low self-esteem may have something to do with it. Snooty people can make you feel inferior and maybe that's what you feel you deserve?
Alternatively, maybe you like a challenge and relish the thought of breaking through some sort of perceived barrier to success with these types of people. Maybe you like the idea of being seen with them and piggybacking on their social status?
I'm just pulling ideas out of the air here, you'd need to do some introspection to get to the reasons why you personally get the hots for Snooty Susans.
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17 Jun 2025, 5:08 pm
