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Aaron Hamill
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24 Jun 2025, 1:53 pm

BTDT wrote:
It may be that she was "testing the waters" by dating other young men before risking a friendship.
She may desire an emotional connection as well as a physical one.


I know I said "the fairly recent past", but it has been this way for quite a long time. The evidence would suggest that younger men are her romantic preference.

Our friendship is very close and emotionally expressive.



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25 Jun 2025, 9:46 am

Aaron Hamill wrote:
I know I said "the fairly recent past", but it has been this way for quite a long time. The evidence would suggest that younger men are her romantic preference.

Our friendship is very close and emotionally expressive.


*A -Ask if she is willing to discuss this option with you openly? if not, and you are not interested, don't push it, but just propose to her that it would be unhealthy for both of you to have a 'lobsided' friendship.
*B -If you are starting to feel like you love and 'pine' for her, tell her so and leave the friendship if love is unrequited.
*C -If you are contemplating this with no actual romantic feeling, but do not want to let her down, return to "*A"



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25 Jun 2025, 2:17 pm

kadanuumuu wrote:
Aaron Hamill wrote:
I know I said "the fairly recent past", but it has been this way for quite a long time. The evidence would suggest that younger men are her romantic preference.

Our friendship is very close and emotionally expressive.


*A -Ask if she is willing to discuss this option with you openly? if not, and you are not interested, don't push it, but just propose to her that it would be unhealthy for both of you to have a 'lobsided' friendship.
*B -If you are starting to feel like you love and 'pine' for her, tell her so and leave the friendship if love is unrequited.
*C -If you are contemplating this with no actual romantic feeling, but do not want to let her down, return to "*A"


I couldn't ever leave the friendship. I love her.

I'm sure both of us could remain close friends even if there were unrequited feelings on either side. I believe our relationship is strong enough.



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