All bridges burned with friends due to my anxiety

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One reason why it sucks to be on the spectrum, I can't seem to hold onto friends. Whether it's childhood or now, anybody I make friends with are eventually ghosted or pushed away because the anxiety becomes too great and it makes me feel like a terrible person. I made several friends when I went to a series of video game conventions and stayed in contact with some of them. But, when I stopped attending these and lost interest, I stopped talking to these friends.

If I found a new interest, how do I know I won't do this again?

One thing that might help is to try to find friends with whom you have more than one thing in common.

For example, here on Wrong Planet, I would suggest that you edit your profile to include a signature line that mentions your current interests. That way, you might be able to find some friends here who have one or more of those interests in common with you as well as autism.

Also, next time you attend a convention pertaining to one of your interests, maybe wear a T-shirt pertaining to one of your other interests, to attract people who share that other interest.

I have this problem. I somehow can't cross the someone I know in class, work, or activity into being a friend. And when it has happened I somehow can't keep them. Never had a big argument with anyone, they just didn't consider me their only friend and I didn't know what to do or say outside the common thing we had.