"ass burgers".

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I haven't heard "ass burgers" for about a decade...

There is concept called reappropriation. It means a group taking back a word that is an insult and making it a positive. The most notable example is the word “queer”.

Sometimes members of a group say seemingly self hating things as a inside joke.

^Good point. I try to consider the context & the members I noticed using it a bit seemed to have a lot of self-loathing basically saying they hated being autistic. I think a lot of the controversy about the word being used was due to the negativeivity of the members using it. The real problem of coarse is due to suciety blaming & hating others who are different instead of trying to help. It can be very hard not to internalize others negativeivity towards us.

Lorna Wing did a lot of good things for the autistic community.

I have been thinking about this a bit lately.

Sometimes stigma is so pervasive there's nothing to do but move through it. The alternative to developing a 'feared self' or pervasive sense of shame is to live the feared identity openly.

My concern about this is (a) does it perpetuate the stigma on some level for others who have not transcended their own insecurities and (b) if shame is not fully transcended surely it remains harmful to the individual.

So my instinct is to see it as necessary, sometimes, but ideally impermanent.

I think that Asperger's may be a different kettle of fish. I am happy to be corrected, but where I've encountered stigma I think it has been associated with disability or difference, not Asperger's itself. I'm not sure that people develop feared Asperger's selves the way they have developed, say, feared queer selves. Maybe the looseness of the label is also doing us some favours in this respect. So terms like 'sperg' are perhaps simply irreverent.

I struggle nonetheless with derisive language, although I recognise the positive role it can play in my belly I just don't like it.

I remember when I first started hearing it mentioned on TV or wherever, I honestly thought they were saying "ass burgers".

I remember first reading about it in a newspaper in 1995. I read about a boy who had it and a whole bunch of girls who lined up to dance with him after they told some boys not to pick on him.