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no STEM degree/job
always been single
parents been dead for a long time
zero "friends". they always end up dumping me or vice versa.
only worked minimum wage jobs and got made redundant
zero children
barely surviving
autistic
hormonally transitioned from female to male @ 24
exhausted all the time
executive functioning disorder
zero motivation
apathetic worthless useless
physically weak
mentally slow



midlife crisis

Hey,
Cheers up!
Life ain’t easy so you make the best of it. Consider that achievements doesn’t merely determine your worth or value.
Who you are as a person, is more valuable than what you have as an individual.
As I see in this post, you’re a strong person capable of living an authentic life transitioning from female to male.

Now the question is, what do you want to achieve and how do you get to that goal?

Good luck!
Make good of your journey

I'm sorry you feel that way. I know saying that sounds cliche, but I've been there. I feel worthless, sometimes, too. Often, what helps me is to ask what I'd achieve if I had three or more wishes. It's easier for me to achieve goals I articulate, write down and even add the odd diagram. Then, I see which is realistic and what holds me back. I break them down into little goals and reward myself for achieving each one. In a way, you've done the hard part already. You wrote down what you want.

just making it through a lifetime in this hellworld is accomplishment enough!

^^^^ This one above ^^^
Hope you get to feeling better .

Please refer to my 10 things I learned that I would have told my 20 yr old self....

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gave up on "life" a long time ago

frozen feet, litterboxing, sleep. struggling just to make it through the day.

i've been wounded.

I'm in a similar boat. I'm not in the job I was hoping to get, and I am still part-time. All of my relationships have failed, and I only got a couple of friends. The asperger's debuff is real, and I have a hard time understanding nuance, especially when my boss tells me to do stuff.

That said, I also count my blessings: Despite having a mediocre job, I still have a job. I have a roof over my head and can afford to pay my bills. I am slowly whittling down my debts, and once I am all paid off I will be in a much better state.

In the end, I guess I am lucky.

It's common to look back on life and see a life wasted. I often feel like I wasted a lot of my youth by wasting opportunities with young women who were romantically interested in me. Now I have to maintain my baby face in whatever way I can because no woman in her thirties is going to want a man with my lack of experience, and no woman in her twenties is going to want a man who looks like he could be her dad. Sometimes I think about how different my life would have been if I'd talked to any of the girls that were showing an interest in me. I feel like I'm running out of time, but at the same time I feel like I'm not ready for a romantic relationship, despite being at the tail end of my prime.

You said "baby face."
You still have plenty of prime ahead, but you're going to have to get a wriggle on.