Why would someone think a guy would take advantage of me?

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I am high functioning autistic and some people on other forums said to me “I doubt you can consent” I told them I can consent it was confirmed by my phychologist and they said if you don’t know why it’s dangerous to try to meet up with them on the same day then you can’t consent. I told them I do know the dangers and know when a guy is taking advantage of me. They even said a guy will take advantage of my deficits to get sex so my therapist told me that it’s important for me to tell her what guy I am going to hook up with to see if he has good intentions or not. Is this out of line and unnecessary and these people are making me seem worse than I seem? Why would they think just because I’m seeking out casual sex like everyone else it means a guy would take advantage of me? And they are wrong for saying I can’t consent to sex when what they said wasn’t accurate. What do you think about this?

I think your phychologist is the person you should listen to for advice and input. Unfortunately, regardless of autism or not, meeting men for causal sex is not totally safe for any woman. Women have to keep that in mind, look out for redflags and think ahead. There is always a risk you meet some predatory guy.

I think being able to consent is only one part of the issue. Because if someone you meet wants to and is aggressive enough, they could push past what you are comfortable with. I think it can be a very good idea to tell someone you trust where you are going/ who you will meet and when you expect to be back before meeting anyone you don't already know well.
Also it's advisable to meet someone public and in daylight, and have an exit plan if anything does not feel right. I hope you stay safe.

Because some guys can be sexually aggressive.