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Anon109
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Today, 9:06 am

I cheated on my boyfriend apparently my mom told him two days ago but I saw her phone and didn’t see she called him Then he texted me regularly for a day Then next day he said I don’t want to talk to you again. I even texted him today saying why? I didn’t have closure. I’m not even sure my mom even told him. What is this all about? What should I do? I have a serial cheating problem because of my autism and this happened so many times and I don’t know what to do?



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Today, 9:13 am

Yes , and am not so sure ,I would blame it on autism ? Infidelity can be a thing all by itself .


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Today, 9:35 am

Jakki wrote:
Yes , and am not so sure ,I would blame it on autism ? Infidelity can be a thing all by itself .

I keep texting him for me to tell my side of the story but he’s not texting back what should I do?



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Today, 9:48 am

Am not sure there is anything you can do ? Sorry to say , " It is not likely you can control his mind."
Practice monogamy ? apologize ? and hope alot . Give him time , you give him proof ? idk how to do that .
Depends on your maturity level maybe ? All I can do is wish you luck. Find friends who value monogamy .?
Does anybody write anymore, Write him a letter or send a card ? but that from my perspective . If you care more about sex ..? go join a swingers club , and do not involve your parents or their household ? depending on their valuess. ,


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Today, 10:12 am

I don't think cheating is an autistic trait but you do seem quite unable to know many social boundaries, which probably explains why your parents protect you so much. You don't seem to really know what you're doing.

I'm sorry this is a bit harsh.


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Today, 3:33 pm

Tamaya wrote:
I don't think cheating is an autistic trait but you do seem quite unable to know many social boundaries, which probably explains why your parents protect you so much. You don't seem to really know what you're doing.

I'm sorry this is a bit harsh.

Yeah but my parents say the reason they protect me so much isn’t because of my autism. Is this a lie? I actually do know social boundaries. What do you think?



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Today, 4:11 pm

If you knew social boundaries then you wouldn't cheat on your boyfriend nor be confused as to why he has broken up with you. Nobody can really accidentally cheat, and if you are cheating without knowing you're doing it then it means you may be lacking in social boundaries or understanding of them. You had a boyfriend, why not just be with him? Unless maybe you both were unhappy together?

I used to flirt with men and get myself involved in them, but when I met my husband I stopped flirting with other men, because I was focused on him and didn't feel the need to want attention from other men any more. There are a few men I fancy at work but I don't flirt with them because it'd feel disloyal to my husband, who has been hurt by women in the past but trusts me deeply, so I would hate to be another woman who lets him down. It could destroy him emotionally. He is a good man.


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Today, 4:13 pm

You said yourself that you cheated on your boyfriend. If that's not your side of the story what is? If you want to keep a boyfriend then don't cheat on him.


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32 minutes ago

Tamaya wrote:
If you knew social boundaries then you wouldn't cheat on your boyfriend nor be confused as to why he has broken up with you. Nobody can really accidentally cheat, and if you are cheating without knowing you're doing it then it means you may be lacking in social boundaries or understanding of them. You had a boyfriend, why not just be with him? Unless maybe you both were unhappy together?

I used to flirt with men and get myself involved in them, but when I met my husband I stopped flirting with other men, because I was focused on him and didn't feel the need to want attention from other men any more. There are a few men I fancy at work but I don't flirt with them because it'd feel disloyal to my husband, who has been hurt by women in the past but trusts me deeply, so I would hate to be another woman who lets him down. It could destroy him emotionally. He is a good man.

Yeah but typical people cheat and know social boundaries how is it different with me?



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Yeah but typical people cheat and know social boundaries how is it different with me?


And typical people will face consequences for their actions.

Just like you're now facing.

You can't unf**k a toddler, which is to say some actions once done can't be corrected or made better. The only way to not deal with the consequences of some actions is to simply not do them.

But yes, it sounds like your boyfriend is ghosting you because he isn't willing to date someone who cheats on him.


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