The problem with dating apps is that they tend not to feel real. Especially after you've been on them for a while. You get bored and stop checking. Conversations run dry.
By being on the app, you're both saying I want to date someone but nowt else. That creates a sort of awkward pressure where you're both gunning for the same outcome (to date) and it can feel forced. It doesn't feel like a natural progression most of the time. That can create situations that feel more like a job interview than an actual connection.
The trouble is, I think that when you approach it like that, you don't click with the other person and it feels like a personal failure (when it isn't). If you treat is as a win / lose situation instead of a more open 'let's see what happens with this new person in my life' then you're going to end up fatigued from it all.
In fairness, I know squat. Zilch. I've been on dates but I've never dated a day in my life. I keep telling myself to get back out there (whatever that means) and join all the apps again but frankly there a moments where that's as appealing as the thought of wearing a dress made of poison ivy. I'm the least qualified person in the room to be giving advice. Interesting topic though.
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