How did other millennials manage to settle down early?

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I seem to know of some people older than me who got married in their early and mid 20s and are still together much like my parents and grandparents generations did. I went through my early 20s, mid 20s, late 20s and into my 30s without getting married so far and I can't understand why it keeps bugging me in my head. It makes me feel as though I'm not a "true adult" because of it. My sister is a bit younger than me and she and her partner have never got married nor have my uncle's kids who are 30 and 26 who have partners and not married.

a lot of them had their parents give them money for a house and/or they have special connections to get careers or they chose the right majors and decided to priortize marriage and a family over financial stability. I was always told to wait to get married and have kids till you cant afford it and so many people are shocked that millennials are listening to them and have no kids and no spouse. also many of the millennials that settled down bought their houses during Covid or before the real estate boom and when rates were super low.

A bit of the women on my mom's side of the family like one of my cousins & kids of a couple different cousins are very social somewhat party types & they have careers as nurses. They may tend to work a lot but they were able to find partners easily & are in long-term relationships. They were able to afford houses or apartments & have kids & money to go on trips & such without using money from their parents. I don't know what careers their husbands/long-term boyfriends have though. There may be a gender bias since they are all from & still living in the deep south(Louisiana & Texas) which tends to care about conservative gender expectations. Guys like me who are more introverted, socially awkward, or have somewhat major disabilities are majorly disadvantaged when comparing ourselves to others who are much more successful in life. We need to focus more on figuring out what's realistic for ourselves instead of comparing ourselves to others & wondering why others were able to be more successful. What worked for others will likely not work for us.

I missed you nick. glad to see you back on here. Texas is not deep south. a nursing degree is a example of the right major. The American Dream is dead for our generation. Its like what George Carlin said its called the American Dream because you have to be asleep to believe it. My parents are the only thing keeping me from living on skid row so i would encourage our generation to keep living with parents for as long as possible. Gen z is even more worse off than we are.

I remember being 28 and thinking that my parents by this age were married and had me and I was even noticing some other people I recognised from school the same age as me who announced on social media they got married or had their first child and and here I was with no long term partner and feeling like I was still in my early/mid 20s. Here I am now and it feels like nothing has changed.

Even then, I was at times looking on dating apps but was not having much luck with them and nor was I having much lucking meeting face to face whether at work or if I went out somewhere but I almost never went to bars in the hope of meeting someone.