Dating supposed to be easier today why are there more single

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I am just looking for a relationship. I am not sure why you do not understand that. I am looking for a romantic relationship with someone who can accept, that the only goal in my life is a romantic relationship. If a person does not like me because of that, that is totally fine.

The only salvation I will ever receive in this life or the next is the love of a lover. I expect nor desire anything else.

Why do you insist that goal isn't understood?

Your goal is understood, that's why you've received advice intended on making that goal more readily achievable.

You respond with hostility to any advice that will make that goal more achievable, as though anything that makes that goal more achievable is somehow a distraction.

Ironically, much of the advice is just as applicable to maintaining a relationship as it is to forming a relationship, which makes your rejection of it read like I don't want to do what's required to participate in a relationship, I just want to be able to claim I'm in a relationship.

Basically, it comes off like you view being in a relationship as an achievement to check off your list, rather than an ongoing partnership with another person that requires constant work.

Oh well, I am glad my goal is understood

I guess I need to be firmer about it. I only want love under the condition that the other person is ok alright understanding that for me being in a romantic relationship is the most important thing in the world and the only thing I care about.

I am sorry to be so blunt. I realize that will eliminate a great deal of potential partners. Maybe all of them, who is to say, but that is the only sort of love I am interested in.

And really that is the only subject I am interested in talking about.

To be fair I demand nothing from the other person than them having a desire to spend time with me.

I seek nothing else.

Part of the reason why this approach represents such a red flag is because it makes a considerate potential partner worry about how you might react if the relationship doesn't work out. It makes them likely to worry about how you will personally take it, as well as possibly making them worry about if you will take those feelings out on them.

Beyond that, this thread also provides a microcosm into some of your struggles. You're very insistent on being understood, but you don't seem to care about understanding the feedback in the slightest. If one can't reciprocate even in a conversation, how can they possibly reciprocate in a relationship?

If one wishes to participate in a relationship, one needs to possess and develop the tools required to be a participant in a relationship.