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Yeah that's where my daughter went for hers too but now they have a service local to me

Same, I think it was 2015 when a service in my city appeared.

Thank you, yeah I think diagnoses of things like autism is like adopted children (just an analogy, not comparing). Some adopted children feel embarrassed about it, even as adults, and might prefer to just tell everyone that their adoptive mother gave birth to them. Others might be more accepting and open to the knowledge that they were adopted. Everybody's different.

Unfortunately my reaction to my AS diagnosis was a bit hoarse. It was always a "why just me?" case. My sister had learning difficulties and some of the teachers at school suspected she could be on the autism spectrum, but because she never got diagnosed or assessed or anything, it's hard to know for sure. She succeeded in making friends better than I did. I'm trying to tell myself that people with AS can make friends with their neurotypical peers, but because making friends has always been denied for me as an Aspie, and ASD is a disorder that affects the social development, I still often wonder how they do it. My social skills aren't poor, even as a child, but I guess there must be something off about me otherwise I wouldn't suck so hard at making friends. It does depress me, because I have equal desires to fit in and have friends as the average NT does, especially during my teens.

Anyway, sorry to ramble on about myself. I am reading your posts, BB, and I empathise with your experience too.

Maybe your anxiety has held you back

My daughter can make friends really easy and I'd say her autism is really noticeable but mines less noticeable and I struggle

But my struggle is more to do with other conditions because now I'm getting better from those other conditions I find that I'm a lot more comfortable around people and people seem a lot more comfortable around me too

Maybe. Plus having ADHD (quite severe) on top of AS can add points to one's social awkwardness. And yes, I have an anxiety disorder that is quite prominent. My mum didn't have AS or ADHD but she had anxiety and depression, so I think that was passed down to me and my brother. My sister doesn't seem to suffer with anxiety or depression. She seems quite content in her own world and just glides through life with only fleeting emotions. Only thing is, it makes her easily led and not able to have her own opinions.

I'm glad your daughter is getting on okay. Maybe because you've been supportive of her, despite your problems you have?

Yeah I stick by her

It's funny the things your parents pass down to you innit

I recently found both my biological parents and I can't escape tlfrom the fact that I am very much like them

It's weird that even though neither of them had a hand in my upbringing I'm like them

I don't even know how that works but it does

I've been listening to The Kinks since I was 8 years old.

I wonder if Banksy's on the spectrum at all

^ That is a good question, bb.

Yeah it just occurred to me earlier when I was thinking

Do you have any favourite works of Banksy?

Not really but we went to the Banksy museum in Amsterdam the other year

It was really trippy

Ooh, that sounds interesting!

it was something

It messes with my head when I'm watching telly and the people aren't doing what they normally do

Like if it's a sitcom and it's usually set in someone's home and then there's an episode where they're outside

It's like I can hear my brain screaming for them to go back to the regular scenery

Whenever I first watched a TV series of something I'd watch the episodes where they're outside of their home once, and the next time I watched the series I'd skip those episodes.
But then the more I got to love the series I became more open-minded and began loving the episodes I had skipped before as well.

(Not implying you're closed-minded or anything , I'm just trying to explain the best I can my experience with TV series, as I can relate to what you said).