Getting used to depression?

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I hope you get some good sleep tonight, Magz.

Thanks, the party went well, I had decent sleep but I need several days of social laziness that are hard to afford and even harder to afford in December.

And the diagnositc/accommodation process of the Aspie girl is continuing, several meetings due to it ahead :/

Happy Belated Birthday to your little girl. I hope you can take the time to rest up. It is so important for us!

I have to get my girls from school and I get a panic attack at the very thought of it.
According to my therapist and my experience, it means I need to rest.

Is your husband at work?

Maybe he can give you a break today----and, in return, you could bake him a cake or something.....

You still don't wrap yourself around a thought that I'm not a kitchen creature (sensory issues about food, I need to take care not to starve myself and problems with executive functioning and sense of time)

He took the kids from school on Monday and Wednsday and there is an option that he takes them to his parents for this night and returns tomorrow evening. We probably should do it.

That means---if you invite me over---that I'll have make my own Polish Pierogis....a darn shame!

My mother in law makes lots of pierogi. We usually have some in the freezer.

Relating - last night my husband called and said he would not be home for dinner, so near the last minute before heading over to my daughter's evening activity I offered the kids cereal (they accepted). When my husband left this morning he told me exactly what to make for dinner, and so I will. Thing is, three years ago when I made dinners my Focus, I would plan and make 5-6 meals a week, but when it's not my Focus: yogurt, toast, carrots and humus - and almonds. At least we have some healthy foods to munch on. So for me: I could do it (with time and preparation) but I can't (given current concerns and commitments). That's confusing for me. I can, but I can't. I could bake a cake... I just need lots and lots and lots of patience: recipe, ingredients, shopping, pans --- I know how to operate the oven --- anxiety Level 7 for fear of burns (my own and little children). Which would make me depressed - why is baking a cake so hard for me? except I am trying to stay in the mind frame: It is daunting, I can take steps to do it. My choice. Why is there so much to do? Oh, that's right b/c my current obsession is AS.

I know this in my Focus / out of my Focus thing, I have it too.
That's why I prefer 6 hours of cleaning once a week over 1 hour of cleaning every day.
There was e.g. a time when cosmetics and style were in my Focus. I don't regret it, I've learned quite a lot, but after a few months of research and experiments, I formed my minimal useful knowledge and got bored by the topic

Did you use make up before and do you now? More or less? (I have yet to look up threads on makeup, it makes my stomach churn.)

I don't use makeup and the only period when I used it regularily was when I worked in a place where lots of visitors were seeing me. Even then I aimed at "natural look", only learning tricks to appear less tired and healthier.
I was a big fan of semitransparent foundations and BB creams at that time.
I was quite disappointed with most make up professionals, only really good ones were able to take my uncommon face shape into account and make it look better, not worse.
But the most important things I learned were about skin care and color matching.

Yep, that would be my style. I have been lacking in area of skin care. Any advice for hands or face?

Depends on your particular skin. And properties of tap water in your location. There is no one-size-fits-all solution.

I have oily skin with dry patches, tendency to acne and some kind of "overreactiveness" to irritation.
For me, oils rich in Omega-3 are really working - flax oil is easily available, rose seed oil I use instead of face cream. I don't know how exactly it works but I digged it on some blog and my sisters confirmed it after I shared the news with them and they tested it: Omega-3 really cures "problematic" skin.
Strong detergents, enzymes and paraffin (and other petrol-based oils) are the worst for me, despite being often present in products for such a skin or even sometimes recommended for it.

But your problems may be different and you may need something else.

I'm sorry to hear this. Don't wan you to be this way. Depression is often caused by the way of your thinking. If you care to much about the negative things in your life then they start to get much more of your attention and become a more and more important thing for you. You train yourself to give them more and more attention and become a more depressive way. You are bright enough to stop this! Don't ever think bad about yourself. You are nice, quite bright and able to deal with any situation. Care more about joyful things in your life and get over this please.

I'll keep Omega-3 in mind. When I wrote my question I was thinking of dry skin (in a dry climate). The first things that comes to mind is lotions, but I avoid chemicals in general (lotions, soaps). Perhaps flax or rose seed oils would be appropriate. I'll do some research. Thanks for helping the topic be less daunting for me (I like when I have an idea where to start).

I hope you are recovering from your busy week (month/life). Yesterday mine got a bit much for me and so I made a list (short, highest priorities). I woke up mentally practicing for job interviews. (I don't have any applications out yet.) All in good time.