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How come you are so tired all the time Activebutodd? Do you have anemia?

I don't mind comments on my appearance unless they are along the lines of describing me as fragile or slight.

I get so sick of everyone I'm assuming I'm very weak because I'm thin.

I totally know that he was not intentionally trying to hurt me or even call me fat...(even if...he prefers chunky girls anyway...and he is notorious for offending women about their weight...just by commenting on it...and should definitely KNOW better by now...even heavy women generally don't want to hear it unless they are totally happy with themselves...the "more to love" comments do not work)....it is just that the comment struck a nerve and I was sorta set up for it...it was hot and we had been out on a boat and I had had a few beers....and it really set me off...


um..I can overeact to other types of negative comments too..I have been a singer my entire life..I used to be in a semi "professional" working band...and when i joined up with Flakey I joined his raukus "Comedy"act where there is lots of screeching and bad singing and playing....and a girl I know approached me and insulted our music and the kind of singing I was doing, and it was at least a year before I could talk to her again.

I've always been touchy about appearance, because I grew up with a mother who thought it was the only thing that mattered about me. She never used to notice anything I did, but she was all over me for not looking absolutely right at all times. She was very thin, and always used to tell me I was fat. I look back at photos of me in my teens and no, I wasn't fat (a British size 14 wasn't fat in the 1980s, although I guess lots of people might think it is now, such is the body fascist society we live in).

I can't help but be a little hurt at negative comments - I'm learning to take a 'heck, what do they know?' attitude - but it's also annoying when someone is all over me with compliments about my appearance. Some of my family members do this. I think they think they're making up for the negative stuff I got from my mother, but I always think 'yeah, OK, so I look good, now what else?' I'd rather be complimented for achievements or personal qualities, and it feels like they're reducing me to my looks again, only in the other direction.

I was an overweight child, partially because of PTSD and partially because i was so dyspraxic it made anything athletic nearly impossible and I sought refuge in books and chocolate covered oreos..and food was kinda my friend....eating was a sort of stim....I became food-obsessed (like my dad)....and I would have been completely oblivious and happy with myself if my grandmother did not feel perpetually compelled to make jabs at me about my weight...and embarrass me in public about it. I got up to 150 lbs when I was just in the 5th grade...I was pretty much obese...but the teasing didn't help me lose weight...that sorta happened on it's own when I hit puberty and eventually became a vegetarian...I got down into the 130's by Jr. High...and then the low 100's by high school...and it gradually started to climb when I went into my 20's so now I am back to 150 lbs...and stuck there...and struggle just to stay there...
Being an obese child sorta left me with a large frame....and a higher weight is normal for me...but I still imagine that one day I might magically lose 40 or so lbs...as if that would somehow make things better...

My mom is tiny and was anorexic when she was young. I have always had a larger frame kinda like my dad....

No! Don't say that! *caresses chocolate bar*

Chocolate tends to make my mouth break out sometimes..and it is kinda unpredictable....I am much more of a cheese person.....

also I just realized that one of the main reasons i spazzed out so badly is that I am premenstrual and didn't know it...

First off, shirt girls are totally adorable. >_>

Also, yeah... I don't know about others, but when somebody says something negative about me, I TRY to take it with a grain of salt, but I usually end up freaking out about it. Like, sometimes I freak out REALLY bad. Psycho ward bad @_@;;;