Toddler Girl - Aspergers ! !!

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I agree that girls are harder to dx as they show signs very differetly than boys. I have been watching my daughter since she was 3. About the time my son was dx'd. She is very curious and such a destroyer. I think she is more the sensory seeker as she loves/d getting into things and ruining them or making a huge mess and just smearing everything and squishing everything(we had to put a lock on the fridge when she was 2). She does pretend play though and she does socialize, even better than me, BUT...she just started K and she has been telling me she plays with the teachers at recess. We just had her IEP meeting (speech delay) and her teacher said she shys away from the kids and goes straight to the teachers for chats. She is also doing this at the end of the day. She is being encouraged to find a friend and play. This is how i started out when i started K. And back then, they actually sent me back to nursery school for an extra year. I am hoping that because it is still the beginning of the school year that she will progress. If she doesn't, i know there must be more of an issue. Either way, i wouldn't trade her for the world.

Btw, my son is such an opposite from her. He also did not engage in pretend play at all. I never really noticed it til he was being evaluated and i had to go back and remember how he was growing up.

GL!

Heya

I would just start making a list of anything that stands out. Make a list that points to AS and one that points the other way.

Watch her for a little while and when you have a decent list take it to the family doctor and see if he thinks you should see a specialist.

2 is early for anything really, but you'll probably want to find out before she starts school just so you can start getting accommodations in her folder if she needs them. It took about a year or so after my guys diagnosis to get everything in order and actually get an IEP.

The reason to get the diagnosis is to USE it. Everyone seems to be saying accept her accept her, but of course you do. Getting a diagnosis would be a tool to get her any help she may need, even if it is just extra understanding in school.

Since I was diagnosed at 21, (am female) we've talked a lot about it in my family. My mom has done a lot of specialising since she works in the area with children, and she is quite certain no one would have picked it up in me at that young age. (We were speaking since we are curious about my own baby)

However what I can say is that if you aren't picking it up and your little girl DOES have it, she's probably pretty damn mild.

I suppose Im loosing sight of how to parent her properly, I think.

For instance: she always likes to close the doors when she enters or leaves a room. Thats okay, Im used to that. But yesterday evening I was closing the window blinds and she got really upset, I thought she wanted to help and invited her to help me do it. Then all hell broke loose, she wanted them open. The tantrum to follow was out of control!!

So with my parenting cap on of a NT child, I think I would have just explained that it was getting dark, the lights were on, and the blinds needed to be closed, and just follow through with it, and thats it.

But with my parenting cap on of an AS child, I might think there is a very real issue for her about the blinds and I would leave them open and try not to cause a fuss, and just close them later on.

These are the little delimas I face every day, if she has AS I nurture her well, I allow her lead, and make life as predictable and comfortable as possible.

If she is NT, she has me wrapped around her little finger, is spoiled, and just wants her own way all the time!! !

She has me so confused

With my AS son, I know exactly were I am with him, he has absolutely no behaviour problems, and we work great as parent and child, with lots of mutual love and respect.

But she has me baffled sometimes, girls are so different, but Im learning as I go along.

Thanks againg guys xx

P.S.

I've AS, my wife has AS and prolly my daughter. Actually I think that AS-like parenting can't be bad for an NT. Also if she has AS it doesn't mean she shouldn't learn education, learn to wait and learn to understand other people needs. I had a 2 weeks verbal wrestle to make my daughter use shoes (she hate every kind of "constriction") and "wasted" 2 hours in a shoes shop to find out a kind good for her (I think the seller think that we are mad, my daughter is not 2 yet...) but finally we did it. Yes is stuborn, but I'm far more stuborn than her

I am told by the lady that diagnosed me that they can usually diagnose at 2 and a half... So you COULD go talk to someone. I probably will.
We have questions about my little one at 16 mths.
She's perfect... but has some very ASish quirks. Especially when she is unwell.

Thanks Azharia for your reply,

I found my daughter having a little pretend play while I wasnt looking!! ! I watched quietly as she did a basic little 'theme' to her play, with basic running commentary. I was thrilled, and tried to spy quietly, but she saw me and got annoyed and stoped playing!! This has now happened a few times.

It seems she wants to do this when no one is looking, and if you try to get involved or even get 'caught' looking, she will abandon the whole thing!! !

So her pretend play is a secret ! !!

Girls are just so complex, never know what the hell is going on ! !! xx