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I'd just like to add, much of the stuff that's in there by necessity is rather raunchy and / or nasty stuff that is of no real interest to 99.99% of the forum's members. Often with a high gross-out or TMI (Too Much Information) factor. So while there's plenty of discussion topics in there that are there simply because the topic starter wanted a more mature audience or adult perspective, there's also a few that could be considered rather tasteless. You're not missing out on anything. The vast majority of topics suitable for general consumption are placed where everyone can see them, and even people with access to that section don't really pay much attention to it.

Sex is also discussed there and fetishes used to be discussed until they got enforced. I don't know about now because two mods were demodded last month and I have noticed a change here since.

The terms of service are still the terms of service. No changes in the rules, just in who is enforcing them.

I was thinking I should add, with respect to Asp-Z's question, and my response about why teens shouldn't be talking about this stuff with strange adults, is that a large part of it relates to value formation. Your parents may not share my views or that of another adult and may not take too well to an opinion on a touchy subject I or others might have. The whole area involves a lot of ethics, values, priorities, and morality. It is the place of the adults in your life to provide that context; they don't want it to come from someone they don't know, and it shouldn't. The context has a lot to do with life experience and other things unique to you and your family.

Life experience = learning things on your own, not being fed information from your parents.

Everyone has different views on everything, whether it's phones, computers, TV shows, films, or indeed sex. That dosen't mean anyone should be restricted to only hearing one of those views. That's like me telling someone they can only buy cars made by Ford because they're the cars I like.

No. Different strokes for different folks, and getting an unbiased view on anything is important.

It should be noted that even talking to people at school about sex is getting a view different from that of your parents.



So talking about fetishes is banned even in the adult section?

The law basically dictates that regardless of what you or I or anyone else thinks is best, that your parents have control of the information you get exposed to. They can give up the control and say "talk to everyone!" or they can hold onto it, but society decided it should be up to the parents. The unfortunate part is that when youth have open parents willing to let all the sources in, they don't tend to want to talk to anyone else out side the family and a few close friends; but when they have parents who want to restrict the information, they do. And, of course, there are times the dynamics of the family just don't make it comfortable. But, none of that changes the fact that I don't have permission from society to sit down and share my opinions with every teen out there, and websites like this one are supposed to keep you from viewing adult discussions.



Correct.

I remember when I first joined here, fetishes wasn't against the rules. I don't remember seeing it in the rules and then I noticed it was there when I was SG. Someone pointed it out to me. But people still talked about fetishes and sometimes it was okay and sometimes it wasn't so it was very confusing. If the mods allow the talk about it at times and didn't allow it at times, it's going to be hard for aspies to follow that rule because where is the line drawn?

Good point. Enforcement of any rule can be uneven given how busy the moderators are, and differences in personal opinion as to what crosses the line in a rule and what does not. Until someone finds some way to specifically codify judgment calls, there is always going to be inconsistency, regardless of how hard everyone tries.

What law is this, then? Never heard of that before. Are you saying there's a law which says only my parents can teach me about sex? If so, I'm goin' jail

It's not practical to assume someone with lots of hormones who's curious about sex won't seek out their own information, especially if they're surrounded with it at school too. Which is why we shouldn't be punished for asking about it on here, really.



That's a bit silly, isn't it? I understand banning discussion of stuff like asphyxiation, but all of them? "Fetishes" is a very broad term anyways.

Some of it is statutes, but mostly we're talking that informal body of law called "you might have a valid civil suit if ..." Think about it. Didn't your parents have to sign a form just so school could teach you "family life"? You are allowed to ask everyone; it is us adults who have to think about how and when we respond, and what we allow you to see. The law goes after the adults who over-shared, not the youth. In part because there is always the question, who reached out to who? We're not supposed to reach out to you on the subject.

On the later, I didn't write the rules.

Oh that's ridiculous. Somehow, though, I doubt anyone I know will start a civil suit against anyone for talking about sex, that's just ludicrous

And, actually, my parents didn't have to sign a form. As I remember it, they had a form they could sign if they wanted to opt me out of sex education.

It's not like anyone can't just use the library or Wikipedia to get facts about this stuff anyway, or talk to peers at school, or whatever. Laws to actually withhold this information from people are utterly stupid.

Does any of that even apply in the UK? I can't imagine it really does, we have much less of a suing culture here anyway.

That form is probably the the kind that DW_a_mom was talking about because it allows your parents to opt out of letting you have sex education at school. Some parents, especially of the religious variety would sue a school for teaching sex educationto their children if they don't like what they are telling you. This might be true if, for instance, the school is teaching the comprehensive kind of sex education rather than abstinence only. This is not the case with all parents though.

I understand that, but I still don't think that this can be extended to all adults not being able to share that kind of information with teenagers.

It will damage their delicate little minds.

Hey, I'm 16 now. That's the legal age of consent here. Oh yes!

It could be to stop a pervy man talking about sex to a 13 year old, for instance, and chatting her up. Any owner of a website would get into trouble if that happened on their site. It is a blanket rule. I remember being annoyed at similar rules when I was younger. When I was 18 I wanted to drink in pubs but once we got pulled out of the bar by the police as we were underage. Unfair, but how it went and there was nothing I could do about it (though I did get a fake ID afterwards )