WardenWolf why ban me?

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When two users are trolling each other, if the mod is going to ban the second user, he will mind as well ban the person who started it too just to make it fair or else he obviously had something against the second person.

It's like a teacher only punishing the student who fought back to his bully but yet doesn't punish the bully too, only the victim. I have had that a lot in my school and the teachers just loved picking on me. But yet when I was younger, both of us get in trouble and they wouldn't care who started it but as I got older it be only me in trouble because the school had gotten so bad by then.

Moderators do show favoritism to certain members, for example, when seanmw started harassing me because I wouldn't send him money. He created a post in the adult section using another name and then proceeded to say horrible things about an older woman which was directed at me. So DW_a_mom comes to the rescue and deletes my comments and leaves the nasty offensive one's. She also states that I have made false accusations and how she knows everyone is happy to see them go, without questioning me first about what was happening. She completely ignores the evidence that I speak about in my comments that this guy has more than one member name (sock puppets).

Makes me wonder what her hurry was to rush in there to delete my comments as fast as she could and allowing that disgusting post to exist. It's appears she was protecting seanmw at my expense.

Everytime I am assertive and stand up for myself and the truth, I am accused of having a meltdown or being hysterical or my account hacked, why because I am an Aspergian and a Woman so I'm not allowed to stand up for myself and tell the truth of what is really going on and yes I have the evidence, what do you think, I'm stupid!?! I am 48 years old and I'm talked down to like a little child who can't control herself. How dare anyone throw the fact that I have Aspergers in my face and patronize me just because I stand up to someone who is behaving badly.

There is something going on here that's really messed up and someone keeps going out of their way and to a lot of trouble to cover it up everytime I expose exactly what it is.

What is he trying to hide? I know.

IN Taupey's defence here DW, she does sound like a whiner.
Sorry that did not come out exactly how I planned.
(I will go away and think on how to edit that to make it a little less provocative)
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I don't think it's uncommon to create a new account to reach the mods. Lot of people don't know how to contact the mods outside the forum and alex just doesn't respond when you use "contact us." There have been users that said they tried contacting alex and never heard back so they give up. Some others create a new account here to reach the mods and it doesn't occur to them to not make a post out in the open. Use the PM feature and talk to the mods. But what doesn't make sense is they make a huge fuss about it even if the user hadn't even made one post under their multiple account.

If I were a mod I would correct the mistake I made and ban their new account and unban their old one and apologize for my mistake like wardenwolf did. Lau should have done the same with justmaxx when he misunderstood his post because he thought he said he trolls here. I am not that literal with the rules.

I also think even though some people read "No multiple accounts, only one account per person" I don't think it registers in their head it also means you cannot create a new screen name if you want to start fresh and wanted a new name just because you got tired of your old one. People interpret rules different when they read them. Just as long as they aren't using two accounts at once, they don't see how they are breaking that rule. That's how I had it interpreted when I first joined here. Also the fact sometimes people create an account and they never get a email activations so they create another account and this time they do get that email and activate their account and they're in. They may not also see that as a violation they did because they never got a email with their other account to activate it. I don't think they should be punished for making that move. I think it's taking that rule too literal when you go that far to punishing. Even alex didn't have a problem with a user here creating a new account and was able to finally get on here because she never got a email to activate her account.

Funny story, when I created this account, I got told by one of the mods this was a multiple account but I told him because my two other accounts were deleted this is my only account and I have no multiples. But he still said the same thing so it was like talking to a brick wall and I just wanted to scream and throw my computer across the room because I couldn't get to his head this was my only account now because my other two no longer existed so therefore I have no multiple accounts. I think he was just giving me a hard time because he doesn't like me or he was just being that literal with the rules so to him it didn't matter if your account was deleted or not. But to me it's no multiple account if your others don't exist anymore and I do feel a meltdown coming when I keep trying to explain something to someone and they just don't listen. But then I realize it's not that they aren't listening, they just have their own perception on things, their own opinion and I don't always realize that because I keep expecting people to have the same thoughts at me and see things the same way as me and when they don't, I think they aren't understanding me and I think they are missing the point and then I go on thinking they are stupid because they aren't getting it when to me it's so simple to get. People have to explain their thinking to me for me to realize it's their perception so I do see we are on the same page but we just don't agree. And people have told me in the past "I do understand what you are saying but......" and they also say "I get what you are saying, I understand but...." and that is when they explain their own opinions and perception. Gosh no wonder aspies argue

But I did end up creating two more accounts because I found myself banned and I created league_Girl2 to reach the mods but that was banned before I even activated it so I created another account and I reached one of the mods but I saw alex was on IM so I reached him there and he uplifted it and told me who banned me. It was another mod for "multiple accounts" and I thought that was BS because this was my only account at the time. But now thanks to that I have three again and they are banned except this one. Now tinky has a email in her sig so I know who to reach if anything happens. But I know not all members are going to see it so they will continue creating new accounts to reach the mods.

I have been aware that sometimes banned members will come back and spam this place or troll because they felt they were treated unfairly by the mods and banned unfairly. Same as when some come back and troll the mods in PM. I have heard that's what some did with sinsboldly. Maggiedoll told me and I recall someone else saying it too.

Every time I see a spammer here or a troll, I know it's most likely a banned member who is just upset and they felt they were treated unfairly. But to me it looks like that is why they were banned in the first place so I can imagine that is what other members would think than thinking that member probably felt he was treated unfairly so he or she is doing revenge. But the reason why I would know this is because I go on other forums and about every aspie forum you go to, you will always see a thread or a post on this forum and it's usually negative. You will even see some saying they were being harassed by the mods or got banned unfairly. I have asked a few of them how were they harassed and what exactly happened but they won't tell me. Either because they don't want to talk about it because it was too tragic or they blocked it out and they don't want to remember. Or they just don't remember the details because they blocked it out and moved on and they don't really want to discuss it because it's in the past. I would think they be straightforward and direct by telling me that but they don't. But some have said on the forums why they were banned.

I know of another user here who was banned and she said she let her husband use her account because he was banned and then she was banned because she let him use her account. I told her that's why she shouldn't let others use her account.

The thing with a ban is, no one ever feels it was fair when it happens to them.

I do think full explanations in the past were horribly lacking, and there has been a lot of work to improve that. Even so, no matter how clear you make it, people can have wonderful tunnel vision when it comes to their own behavior and they will still feel it is unfair.

I gave one poster every chance and every explanation possible, and he still came back just to spam me with porn. Some in this thread have the personal experience to know that I'll invest a LOT of time trying to get communication through, and I did with that poster as well. Unfortunately, sometimes there is nothing that will be enough.

I think the problem is that too many experiences like that can leave a moderator jaded, and you start to figure it is never worth it. A moderator needs to experience some successes in order to have the incentive to keep up that level of work. I was fortunate to have that, enough times I felt I really did acheive communication in the midst of conflict. But the effort takes a huge emotional investment, and sometimes the team just doesn't have it to give.