sterilisation - any experiences?

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Just wanted to make the whole daughter judgment thing clear... Sure, she can have her emotions for whatever reason, but it still doesn't give her the right to decide for you (as an adult woman) what to do and what not to do. In fact, no one should do that, b/c that's a decision a woman can only do on her own. For example, a woman who know she doesn't want and never will want kids. She is certain about her choice, but guess what happens when she'd tell friends and family. It's pretty likely that they would rather not want her to do that for several reasons. The other way round, what if a disabled woman decides to have kids? Most people would also be quite skeptical, assuming raising kids would be impossible in her situation. See where I'm going?

My aunt had it and had a baby anyway. I haven't had it but i haven't ever been pregnant that I know of.

I had my tube tied (only have one...long story). Anyway, I was adamant about having it done being that I was in an abusive realtionship. My ob/gyn understood that I wanted no more children. He made sure that he did a good job severing my tube & then cauterizing it. I didn't have any bad side effects from anesthesia.. It was done with an epidural. Had little discomfort from the incision, nor from the gas. Also there are few side effects afterwards, unlike the pill or an IUD.

Good luck with your decision!

I had it done and I feel like it was the best decision I made! I have 2 kids and I knew that was my limit. And it was a very fast and easy recovery too! You are just sore for a day or so but it was so worth it to me!

Mir

I made the choice to become sterile a long, long time ago. I haven't actually be sterilized yet but I just don't have the heart to have kids.

*update*
I went to the pre op appointment and they were an hour and half late and very bumbling. They said I would have to have a general anasthetic as it was risky that they would cut my bowel and would need to sew it up and they had a high rate of infection in that hospital and that they would do the surgery (not another dr).

So I decided that condoms were not so bad.

My social worker was very upset about the idea of me being sterilised and said I should try the pill again. This was very booosting as I thoughht she would want me to be sterilised and would not want me to have a baby, but she thinks I should have more so thats complimentory.

Im single now so contraception is not a problem but if I ever get a relationship again I shall try condoms and the pill. My mum suggested getting a IUD fitted privately as they might do it better with less risk of infection (as infections normally gained on insertion of coil rather than later).

Lotus Blossom,

I have never heard of a sterilization technique where they cut through the bowel. That just doesn't sound right. In fact, I doubt I would want that location to treat me for a hang nail!

In my case, they made a tiny incision where my belly button is, & added some gas so the doctor could clearly see the tube. I have one tiny scar where the incision was made. It was fairly easy, there was little discomfort, & I healed quickly. I guess the only down side, is that supposedly when you have it done you go into menopause a lot sooner. I'm not totally convinced of that though.

Good luck!

I had myself sterilized two years ago with the new Essure procedure. I don't know what operation you're getting but if you haven't heard of Essure I recommend checking it out. Most doctors haven't heard of it because it's pretty new. There is no cutting, and no anasthesia. It's almost like getting an IUD except it's permanent and unlike a tubal ligation the risk of pregnancy is only theoretical.
It wasn't very painful and the recovery was short.
I am so happy to have had it done! I'm so glad that I was finally able to admit to myself that I don't ever want children and I'm okay with it. I feel like there's always this expectation from other women that I be open to the possibility if the right man changing my mind.
I am also very lucky that I found a gyno who takes me seriously and was willing to do it for a 27 year old.

You've mentioned the IUD, the pill, and condoms...but no other kind of contraceptive! You could try the following:

1. the female condom
2. a cervical cap and spermicide
3. a different form of the pill -- some women have a bad reaction to one kind, but can handle a different dosage, or more or less progesterone just fine
4. Depo-Provera
5. a contraceptive sponge and spermicide
6. a non-latex condom; some men report feeling greater sensation with polyurethane or lambskin condoms
7. a diaphragm and spermicide
8.SERM (selective estrogen reception modulator) -- basically, you ovulate while your uterine lining is too thin to support a zygote, and your lining only thickens when you are not ovulating

That's just off the top of my head. A gynecologist may have more ideas. Not all of these are as reliable as the pill, which is why I mention spermicide. Lambskin condoms aren't as reliable as polyurethne or latex, so use a spermicide with those if you try them. I worry that since you felt the IUD, you'd feel the clips from sterilization, too -- and there would be nothing you could do about it! Also, you said something about wishing your coil had lasted longer. I'm not sure what that is, but if it worked so well, why can't you get another?

I think sterilization is a last resort -- however, have you shared your reservations about having another child with your boyfriend? Does he know you do not WANT another child? This may not seem like a big deal now. He may think you'll change your mind; you may be hoping he'll change his. It's not likely. However, if he really wants a child and you really don't, you have a huge stumbling block to a harmonious long-term (5-10year) relationship. You need to talk about this with him!