Husband may be Aspie - should I push him to get a diagnosis?

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It's okay, I'm not offended. I think the responses became more in line with what I was looking for once I became more direct in my language. I honestly didn't realize the community here was mostly consisting of those with ASD. I thought there would be more NT spouses and parents. I understand now and I do plan on sticking around since there are so many wonderful people and it will help me understand my spouse and child better. I will just be less emotional and more concrete in my language. I do it at work so I can do it here too.

Also, My husband and I went out to lunch today and he said he wanted to go see a therapist. He didn't need pushing after all, just a request. Again, I need to use more direct language which is what everyone here is trying to tell me in the first place. I speak and write in non-literal language naturally so I have learn to switch "modes" in my communication with certain people. We are trying to locate a therapist in our area who specializes in adults and then we'll see what happens.

You are right, we are primarily composed of those on the spectrum, and this community was founded that way. It is one element that made wrongplanet different as a community when it began. We welcome people of all types, and welcome your husband here if he should find benefit to joining.

Text communication such as this forum can be great because its a balancer that forces people to speak in more literal and concrete terms. There is no tonal metadata, gestures or facial expressions and the like to keep track of.