Why dating and love is for some...pointless and empty

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^Sarcasm?

My detector seems to be malfunctioning. As per usual.

A few years ago I wanted a romantic partner badly and a physical relationship. I'm happily married now however I think if I were to find myself single again I'd be ok with it. Having someone to support you when you need it is nice. Having someone to challenge you and have debates/discussions with is nice too. Neither of those really require a romatic relationship, though, and they aren't even really required for a happy life in my opinion. (well debates and challenges are somewhat required to me but there are plenty of places to find this without having a relationship)

When my husband was away for work for a whole month, I was just fine on my own. It's freeing in a way because I can do whatever I want. Not that there's anything that I want to do that my husband doesn't allow.. it's just.. the atmosphere. My inlaws kept coming over and asking me to do stuff because they figured I was lonely but I wasn't. I like to be alone physically. I haven't been single in many years but it doesn't seem so bad anymore.

So I voted yes. I just don't think its as important as most people think it is.

Well being so clever you wouldn't would you (sarcasm is the lowest form of wit).



Yes I do believe it's a waste of time apparently sad aspie agrees with my assement of most women in relationships it shan't be repeated here to loaded on an aspie forum

So sad if you agree with my views why are you chasing women you might as well lock yourself in a room and start throwing your kaka at the wall and for extra effect start smearing your hands in it, It couldn't be less productive and sane than going in to a relationship could it now?

And the way his going he'll probably end up as Mr kaka * hopefully he gets the help that he needs,

* not that I have a problem with the kaka's of this world they often have intresting things to say and more often than not since their not working they have plenty of time to read so are nearly allways a good source of information

When there's simply "nobody there" (in the RL local area), that sort of love becomes moot.

I haven't felt that kind of love for anyone, yet. I don't know if I can.

Very well said. You are very wise at 21.
Love can and has hurt me on a number of occasions - but I'm still willing to try again.
Wish me luck

I voted No. Love, when it is kept in perspective, can have a point. I was alone for many years before meeting my fiance. What I learned, was how to be a friend to myself. That way if left alone, I can always find comfort in my own company. I was content being alone, and now I am content being in a relationship. I think the trick is to learn the ability to be content in one's own company, or with another person. I outgrew the "need" for a relationship, and found that wanting and then having a relationship was very nice, indeed. It's when we convince ourselves that we "need" someone in our lives that we are most miserable. No mere human can ever fulfill all my needs. It's not fair to ask that of anyone.i

Romantic love is really f*****g stupid. Lust and status seeking are the real name of the game.

I care nada about "romance" nor do I even really know what that entails, I do feel like looking for that is somewhat pointless. Simple, tight companionship is what I seek and is what I have currently.

Lots of drinks, awesome meals, constant s**t talking--it's exactly what I would do solo or with my dude friends, a "partner in crime" is more than welcome though if they are on the level.

My girlfriend is so raw that when she drinks she challenges me to jiujitsu grappling on the floor. That's not a euphemism, I only win because I have a 40 pound advantage, otherwise I'd get my ass kicked because unlike me she is actually trained to fight.

That, to me, is wild style companionship. Love that gives no f***s.

Thank you, I always remind myself that I've got nothing to lose and everything to gain, I try to take something positive even from the most negative experience, it's simply about having the right mindset and mentality. I've found that everything is impermanent and if you can divorce yourself from attachments and accept everything for what it is instead of dwelling on pain or loss, you're able to let go off pain and move on easier.

Very well said!

It's always a struggle, but there's always an opportunity to learn/grow after even the worst heartbreaks - leaving you better than before, not worse...

Good luck!

Think of what a simple holiday or birthday card does for someone. To be remembered. Even that kind of love is pretty powerful. I wouldn't call love (any form of love) overrated or pointless. Love is more powerful than hate and evil, I doubt when it came down to it few would turn it down (saying is one thing doing is another). Sometimes I feel like I don't deserve it, but we all need it.

Ive been looking for a girlfriend and someone to enjoy life with all of my life and im 39 now and never even been hugged by none family before, the lonliness i face having no friends or anyone to talk to is so deeply serious it almost feels like a punishment from godhimself, at this point id give up salvation in a NY second to have a girlfriend, all i wanted growing up was to have someone to start a family with to continue those happy christmas, holiday memories with and to feel like im worth something to someone, because my family is very cold towards me. Ive been called the family runt more times than pills ive taken over my life time, ive spend thousands in my life time on every dating site currently in existance, been to the furthest place uber would take me. Being unable to work, living off ssi with 0.00% of any education while having 0 friends, living with a father who just doesnt care because i cant afford the 2000$ rent in my area. I feel like using my fathers gun on myself is the best and only option. But i sstill want to believe its possible to find love but being into anime, cosplay, kpop and video games which has always been a love of mine, ive gotten nothing but toxicity from dating sites people telling me to shut up, grow up, im pathetic. If this is what life has to offer autistic people, its no wonder so many kill them selves, no one in their right mind would ever willingly want to live a life uf suffering, lonliness and torture like we do.

Even though I am currently in a romantic relationship I sadly must agree!! !

I do think that romantic love has become overrated and I explain the reasoning on my blog

More specifically, it is marriage that has become overrated because from a practical standpoint, the concept no longer makes sense!