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fujikochan
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01 Nov 2006, 6:39 pm

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There is one aspect of the "disorder" I have yet to determine, though. Is one's seeming inability to maintain a "suitable" physical appearance (neatly-groomed hair, properly-applied cosmetics, and other social codes for "cleanliness"), despite really trying to, an aspect of Asperger's? I have issues with looking scraggly, even though I shower daily (sometimes more often) and wear clean, newish clothes. I have been told I have a nervous tick of constantly messing with my hair (although I haven't consciously witnessed it)... Oh well. I become weirder by the moment, it seems.

Oh, yes, it's very typical. Clothing is as much nonverbal communication as eyebrow movements or gestures! In my experience, do what makes you most comfortable. Don't bother with makeup if you don't want to; wear simple clothing. You might not be known as a snappy dresser, but if you wear a simple sort of uniform--mine is khakis and a T-shirt--you'll probably at least blend in. Either your top or bottom should be a color that matches just about everything--white, jeans, black, or khaki. As for shoes, sneakers or tennis shoes go with everything but skirts. Choose a color that goes with everything--white, black, brown leather. Regarding cosmetics, if you're bad at putting them on, then less is best... I don't wear them at all. Clear lip gloss is about the limit of it for me.

The showers are a good thing

That's a major thing Aspies often forget about in the midst of special interests, or because of sensory problems.

Can you tolerate your having your hair in barettes or a ponytail? Should keep you from playing with it. Or else get a short haircut.

The barrettes make my head hurt a lot. I do go for ponytails sometimes.

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01 Nov 2006, 7:27 pm

Lovely to meet you fujikochan. Welcome to WP . I can relate to so much of what you wrote, the elective mutism etc.(which I've since learnt is all directly related to the safety of the "self") I hope you do well at College whatever you might be studying. I feel that 'difference' is something to be valued, respected and highly prized. Hope you enjoy it here.

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01 Nov 2006, 7:56 pm

Juliette wrote:

Lovely to meet you fujikochan. Welcome to WP

. I can relate to so much of what you wrote, the elective mutism etc.(which I've since learnt is all directly related to the safety of the "self") I hope you do well at College whatever you might be studying. I feel that 'difference' is something to be valued, respected and highly prized. Hope you enjoy it here.

I haven't considered the implications of selective mutism before, but a Google search brings up a lot on it. Thanks for the 'mental jog'!

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01 Nov 2006, 7:59 pm

You're welcome - again, nice to have you with us .

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01 Nov 2006, 9:19 pm

Nice avatar ! ! I luv the idea of you being all scientific, pouring stuff from one testube to another ! !!

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01 Nov 2006, 10:24 pm

Hullo, fujikochan!

fujikochan
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01 Nov 2006, 10:57 pm

Prof_Pretorius wrote:

Nice avatar ! ! I luv the idea of you being all scientific, pouring stuff from one testube to another ! !!

I was looking for Marie Curie, and Google Images just happened to pull that image up (I'm fairly certain it's not Curie herself; it looks too 1950s). Anyway, thanks!

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02 Nov 2006, 3:00 am

Jess,

I suspect that you’ve read a lot more about Asperger’s Syndrome than you have about the powerhouse INTJ type. Have you ever sat down and had a good heart-to-heart with a fellow Mastermind?

geezer (INTJ)

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02 Nov 2006, 10:02 am

I m always messing about with my hair too and i wear blue jeans and a T-shirt practically every day, and no make -up. I didn't notice the hair at first . I thouhtgt everyone tidied their hair or scratched when they were itchy.

fujikochan
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02 Nov 2006, 10:25 am

geezer wrote:

I doubt it. Beyond little blurbs about it on the Internet, and the home self-test book What Type Am I, I haven't.

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02 Nov 2006, 1:14 pm

Would you like a reading list?

I think I saw in one of your other posts that today is your birthday, so...

“APIO VERDE”

(as some of the more jocular Latinos say).

fujikochan
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02 Nov 2006, 1:56 pm

geezer wrote:

Would you like a reading list?

I think I saw in one of your other posts that today is your birthday, so...

“APIO VERDE”

(as some of the more jocular Latinos say).

Nope, my birthday is two days before Christmas.

A reading list would be appreciated.

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02 Nov 2006, 2:18 pm

I found good info on Wikipedia under 'Autism' and 'Asperger Syndrome'.

(Sometimes I'm just not into heavy research.)

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02 Nov 2006, 7:15 pm

Reading List for Psychological Type

Keirsey, D. W., & Bates, M. (1978/1984). Please understand me. Del Mar, CA: Prometheus Nemesis Book Company.

Lawrence, G. (1993). People types & tiger stripes. Gainesville, FL: Center for Applications of Psychological Type.

Myers, I. B., & Myers, P. B. (1980). Gifts differing. Palo Alto, CA: Consulting Psychologists Press, Inc.

Pearman, R. R., & Albritton, S. C. (1997). I’m not crazy I’m just not you: The real meaning of the 16 personality types. Palo Alto, CA: Davies-Black Publishing.

Quenk, N. L. (1993). Beside ourselves: Our hidden personality in everyday life. Palo Alto, CA: CPP Books.

Other Resources

Journal of Psychological Type. See CAPT, next.
Center for Applications of Psychological Type (CAPT) <http://www.capt.org/>
Association for Psychological Type (APT) <http://www.aptinternational.org/index.cfm>
Keirsey Temperament website <http://keirsey.com/>

I think I would start with Keirsey. His type preferences are INTP, which is closer to yours than the others.

Let me know of any of this helps (or hinders!).

Sorry about that birthday thing.

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