May have to quit my job soon and I'm worried

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I know that gang-up-on-the-oddball mentality all too well. What's yours about?

I find that going out for lunch with one coworker is easier than going out for lunch en masse. In a group, I can't talk much or have a chance to add to a stable conversation. One on one, the pace is slow enough to keep the discussion on track sometimes!

I like my coworkers, and like going out with them. I just don't talk much in a group.

You don't have to say much - your mere presence assures them you're "one of us one of us one of us" [head spins 720 degrees]

I'm not entirely sure. To myself, I appear "normal." However, I'm pretty sure I'm not making enough eye contact and my discomfort around my coworkers is showing through.

Thank you, that's a very good suggestion. I have the same problem even when the number of people only increases to three.

I have similar problems. I can't meet their social standards because I get so anxious and overwhelmed even when I think I know what is expected of me for a particular social situation. But I always have this sense of what did I do wrong...why are they upset with me....why won't they be nice to me. I'm starting to think its better to just act weak all the time, because no NTs seem to understand how we can fake certain things for a while and completely blank on other things that are obvious to them.

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I say give the new manager a chance. I once quit an abusive job to be unemployed, and I think it was the right decision given the circumstances. But your new manager might work out fine or be even better than the last one. If the work environment under the old manager had new people leaving after a day, the new manager might be able to change that for the better.

That's actually very good advice. Asperger's reminds of when I had a case of vertigo, and no one believed me. If they can't see blood, they don't believe you're sick.

In my situation, there is a new manager. The old one was awful, too. I guess I'm discouraged because this is two bad managers in a row. I helped oust the old one by going through the proper channels of registering complaints. I guess I need to just gear myself up to do that all over again. On the other hand, I wish the new manager would just mellow out and be nice to me.