Do you Exhaust your spouse

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I exhaust people more with the H of my ADHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHD than being autistic. Even my teenage grandkids are saying "Grandmam wait up. Your'e wearing me out."

My 86 year old mom is the same way.

I don't have a spouse, but when I did, I had been told I overanalyse everything. Since then I think I've stopped doing it so much. Mostly it was because I realised that the reason I was analysing is because I wanted to know THE TRUTH, and finally I had to accept there was no TRUTH. So that freed my brain time a bit but I do still enjoy analysing and when I catch myself trying to apply analysis to social situations and/or people I simply stop myself because of the new sub-routine: If encounter self analysing motivation of human --> stop self; remind self analysis pointless; resume brain activity with more pleasurable activity

So that works for me because I am single and have no close personal relatinships, but I think if I were to start going out with someone, it would become impossible not to get caught in that pointless and exhausting loop.

You can't really expect to get emotional acceptance and closeness AND sex and not have to pay for it in some way