Why Aspies (tend to) have it harder in life than NTs?

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It was especially hard for the older generation when there was little knowledge about neuro divergent people. Extremely difficult when constantly being told you can't behave, say or be like that. Told what to do and the effort it went into trying to conform to be accepted even by ones own family.
Later this led to abuse because of getting into the habit of doing as one was told. Fear of retribution if it was discovered. It's a life of insecurity and emotional and physical abuse.
I knew I was different and couldn't understand why no one could see things as I did. I believed I had landed on a planet where there was something wrong with everyone else, because I did like myself the way I was. This caused others to feel anger towards me. I only discovered I was neuro-divergent at the age of 70. So sad...

Our comorbidities are rather savage. Executive dysfunction, dyslexia, epilepsy, ADHD, various sensitivities, lack of ToM, gender dysphoria, age dysphoria, face blindness, is common in the autistic community.

It was tough for me growing up. My parents didn't let me talk about my special interests. I wasn't allowed to cry even though I couldn't regulate my emotions. The kids in my regular classes always picked on me. I also have Gender Dysphoria. I grew up in a world of male and female and that finally pushed me to the brink in the Spring of 1998.

Depends on the autistic.

If one is conditioned to value what NTs tend to value, they'd be subject to feelings of rejection and insecurity by tying said values into survival and self worth. Which usually leads to anxiety and depression...
Looking further away, this is somewhat akin to creating a problem that shouldn't exist in the first place -- because this particular issue is actually learned, not merely because most people are humans with social needs; tho that aspect doesn't help. This main counter against this is usually unlearning the BS...

If their primary struggles are executive function and daily living instead of just the emotional and socialization aspects, definitely will make someone else's life harder, NT majority or no.
Which leads to anxiety and depression, definitely, unless one does not mind to be dependent or even helpless for most of their life, likely at mercy of someone else who do not struggle with it.
Or in state of constant uncertainty alone out of sheer lack of self control, intolerance, or dysregulation, which itself can foster a lot of suffering as an autistic -- unless the autistic has an insane amount of tolerance to uncertainty, ambiguity, and chaos with their lack of self control and direction.
Maybe AuDHD itself is a coping mechanism or a counter for that for some reason.

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I think we have limitations when compared to the NT world, but I think many of us tend to compensate well enough to live similarly pleasant lives. NT's have different problems but still have problems. I wouldn't trade with an NT.

It's much harder to be autistic than not. The 8 times higher suicide rate and 80% unemployment proves that. Why is it harder? Because you live in a society designed to fit a different kind of neurology.