Was I better off ignorant?

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Hi! I'm new to WP and very happy to have found people who make sense and think like me.

The past 5-6 years have enlightened me to gain some mild form of social awareness and self-awareness and brought me to the realisation that I previously had zero awareness of anything and basically lived in a bubble.

These are 2 good examples:

In highschool, friends would comment that I had never been in a "fight" (like bitchy, teenage girls suddenly decide they hate each other today) "because you can't fight with someone when you actually have to tell them that you are fighting". I thought this was a compliment. If a friend is being ridiculous over some silly little thing, then I as the mature and logical one will help them talk it over, so they can realise how irrational they are being and learn from this experience. This usually ended with "oh just forget it". To which I reply "you're welcome, and don't worry I won't think another thing of it".

Whenever I didn't understand what someone meant, I assumed they must have a very low IQ and be too dumb to properly articulate themselves, so I would smile and nod sympathetically, that must be terrible, I feel very sorry for them.

I now understand that I misinterpreted every social encounter for the first 30 years of my life.

Bursting my happy little bubble where I was always right and knew exactly what was going on, has been a fascinating discovery and given me so many answers. But it's also brought me into reality and now I never know what's going on or what's expected of me.

Is this part of some process? Thoughts? Opinions?