Did the actor not like me?

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Fnord, I sort-of agree, but my point is that someone shouldn't take anyone's assessment of them (good or bad) seriously if the person doesn't even know them. In that sense, "reason" is not only relevant, but important. Anagram said it well—Nessbitt’s reaction was superficial and likely had little or nothing to do with Jamesy himself.

i bet many of them do feel like a**holes for it sometimes, but then again, it's an inevitable side effect of the job, and they know it

Perhaps something to do with me being autistic is my guess for the dislike.

Can I just say as well that he's identical in how he acts in person to what he is like on TV

Very few people are rude to people they like.

that's not true

anyone can be rude to anyone if they're in a bad mood. not liking someone just makes it more likely

Someone was put off just the other day by the way I talk/my facial expressions. I didn't really care to apologize because I'm tired of being held to unreasonable standards of energy and warmth, and the other person has some responsibility in that they ultimately decide how they interpret another person. There are always multiple different conclusions one can draw from someone's tone of voice, actions, and facial expressions, and some people default to negative ones, and I do not appreciate the mischaracterization. However, in the end, I decided to apologize for the fact that there was a miscommunication between us.

If this actor did not like you for your question, then that's certainly not anything that is your fault, as you asked a valid question. Perhaps he is also on the spectrum (some actors are, but you can't tell because they take acting lessons), and didn't mean to come across to you as he did. Or maybe he's just a jerk. It's hard to say but I wouldn't dwell on it.

Although not everyone will experience it, a trait a person on the spectrum might have is that things stay with them if it hurt them or conversely was a joyous memory. Some aspies can't "let things go" -- both good and bad. Memories can stick around and nag.

Moments you know went badly can be something you can't stop ruminating over, trying to find out where something went wrong. Even though you will never see that person again. I can see why the OP might still be thinking about this 9 years later. I can sometimes still ruminate with anguish over something twenty years ago.

Not saying that's a good thing, just saying it can happen and I've done this too. It's a waste of energy most of the time. But sometimes you can't help it. Sometimes I've even figured something out by doing it.

OP don't sweat it. I get where you're coming from but I don't think you should worry about this now, anymore. As described, he sounds like a dick, don't sweat it.