She deserves a tongue-lashing...

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Y'know, if I were hubby (and I'm not - I don't even know the kind of people who would have a "lake house") (and besides, here in western Washington, that's a little redundant), I'd be downright relieved to learn I'd managed to dodge a bullet like that - being forced to spend a prolonged period of time in enforced close contact with people, especially judgmental jerks like that. Maybe standing around in a small house next to a lake, rather than sitting in the lake enjoying the coolness, is their idea of a good time, but it sure the frak ain't mine!

Well this just goes to show how petty society really is. All the LW had to do was say 'No' and stick to her guns.... simple as that. I know I wouldn't want friends hanging around my in-laws that I have just met. What if they give a bad impression? Also I think the LW should be more concerned about the pushy woman, I think she'll cause more problems then the AS husband.

BTW this one comment where the person questioned why the woman married the aspie husband? Starting asking questions like "Does he work?" "Do they have a satisfying intimacy life?". This is just the kind of ignorance that makes life hard for us.

I wonder if the little c**t would say the same thing about a husband who was deaf or in a wheelchair?

There is no dilemma except that the woman is no friend to pushy and her husband. She has no evident respect or love for either person she's writing about.
So in that light, I would like to advise Pushy instead: Keep pushing for the free vacation at the lake house, and then bug the heck out of your "friend" on purpose for being so self righteous. Your husband should revel in his Aspergers and even ham it up to ridiculous heights. Then tell the woman thanks, and push for the next free vacation. At this point she may have no choice but to be honest with you and then you can tell her to jump in the lake.

ummm...
I am rooting for the Aspie husband to not have to get dragged to the beach house if he doesn't want to go.


Even small NT social gatherings and i am melting in my shoes.
I went to a happy wholesome Hippie campout and was having a nervous breakdown for a large portion of the time I was there...and it had mostly to do with the friendly social atmosphere and all of the people wanting to chitchat.

I can also relate to the dumb lady questioning what her friend is doing with the guy.
Lots of people had some pretty nasty things to say when Flakey and i wound up together.

In private it is likely he is much different than he is when confronted with strangers.
I am much different when I am alone with Flakey than I am in uncomfortable situations that involve people I can't relate to...

When i am around...likesay...Flakey's family, pretty much the only people I can talk to are Flakey and his nieces...otherwise i am invisible..and I have no idea what they must think of me..small talk is almost impossible, and Flakey's sister, a year younger than me, talks to me like I am a kid.
Those gatherings are truely exhausting.


Um and did you get a load of the article that was linked to one of the highlighted Aspergers words?

http://archive.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2 ... index.html

more ignorant promotion of negative aspie stereotypes....

People made comments on how childlike and antisocial i was...I heard that someone who had just met me made a comment about how I didn't look her in the eye even once....um...yep

There are other reasons they had to have a negative view of our being together (at first)
But largely there were comments about how weird and akward I was...(compared to his last girlfriend)

Flakey and I really are great together.