I miss having a close female friend

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well she could've contacted u. if she didnt, its a signal. happened to me too. at least u got rid of negative influence of her husband)

cheers)

there, u spelled it.
and ya, as i mentioned, friends CAN snap and shout at each other, but that is done with consent. when we have it all set and agreed on, we can do that. there is a stock communication methode (aka "basic polite"), that should be used otherwise. u will need time to recover, but after that u are likely to feel better and safer.

spectrum is wide. and some of us dont click togather, its pretty normal. doesnt sound like "flaker" if he honestly said that. i've filtered thru hundreds of ppl, to get several i really am compatible with, in different ways. its just the way life is. also, only 1 of them is not allistic. there are plenty ways to relate, if wanting to. different age, gender and neurobuild dont stop that) just keep meeting ppl.

well i havent seen/heard those things so i cant put them into any bracket. being "smart mouth" is nothing wrong, unless its done in really offensive manner (and then i'd say its not "smart mouth", but just abusive behaviour). again, i dont know how i would classify that guy, never having met him. acting superior does sound bad. but well lets say this. puns, quips and other sort of smartass behaviour are very well pretty normal and more often than not mean no offence, even if they are intense. as to advises u dont like, well, autistic = having hard time learning when to keep it, ukno ^^ i am not nesesserily justifying that guy, i dunno what exactly he said. but i suggest that maybe u try to do what i do, when i see something i dont like - think what reasons could make that legit. if u find none (which can ofc happen), then proceed with "get rid of that contact". sometimes a benefit of a doubt given, blooms into a new friendship...

well that sounds very f****d up. why would u even want to deal with somebody like that? i'd ignore them for all the lifetimes right after that

well anybody trying to bump their own self esteem at the expense of another person, is bad company. i usually try to not write firm statements, but this is a case for one. be safe from those, please)

What are your thoughts about being polite and just walking off or is that a bad idea?

lets say, i do like to make things final and very literal when i have that in mind. easier online, when u can just press a button and never "see" the person u didnt like again. irl takes some effort to get rid of them. so ya if it was me, i'd tell him i find him obnoxious, and will not tolerate him any longer. btw it so happened, that when i confronted ppl about some certain obnoxious patterns in their behavior, they did change it. but more often they decide to feel offended and hate me))) and im perfectly fine with that xD BUT, u are a different person, with different solutions. do anything, that would prevent u from having contact (and letting him upset u). my ways have their drawbacks, and i know it xD