Difficulty with weekends

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I am in individual therapy and group therapy, the latter of which is specifically designed to help people with emotional dysregulation, which I struggle with. My boyfriend is in individual therapy, and I’ve tried to make couples therapy happen for a long time but it just hasn’t yet. I have hobbies that I like but I also have pretty severe depression and anxiety, for which I am medicated, so the idea of doing something pleasurable doesn’t feel good when I feel like a giant piece of stinking garbage.

I don’t really want to get into the should-I-stay-or-should-I-go aspect of my relationship. It’s not really relevant, since I’ve already been through that and came to my conclusion based on lots of discussion and the context of our pasts, which is far too lengthy to get into. I often get tired of the conflict and think about whether I could live the rest of my life by myself, eschew companionship and support in exchange for never having to be in an argument ever again. But that has not been my choice.

I’m new to this message board and I’m not clear on what I want or what I can expect, and even though I’d hoped to find some kind of like-minded community, I have been making the same social blunders as I’ve always made. I appreciate everyone who has asked questions and offered suggestions. That is very kind.

Are you comfortable giving us information about the source of the aggravation?
What you argue about?

Is your partner an aspie?

Everything and nothing. There's not enough of a pattern to say that I/we get set off by anything in particular. I get paranoid that he's asking me trick questions, or he gets frustrated with me being kind of spacey. Then my paranoid confusion or his frustration gets the other one all activated and it just becomes a tense situation.



He is not, but he has long suspected that his dad is on the spectrum somewhere, so he is sensitive to many of the hallmarks, shall we say, associated with neurodivergence. I am trying not to read into things and I know he is trying to be more patient, and we are both dealing with a lot of difficult stuff both personally and jointly.

Of course this all seems like a minor thing once the weekend is over. I'm circling a theory that it has more to do with mornings than with weekends, but during the week we are both "at" work so we aren't interacting as much until after 5 or 6. Times are also just generally tense, so it's hard to be really scientific about why anything is.

:wall: l [:huh: ] @ weekends

:wall: l [:huh: ] @ weekends