10 Jul 2005, 9:49 am
Nomaken
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Fogman
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10 Jul 2005, 2:25 pm
Sean wrote:
[rant]I don't keep much of a social circle and didn't have much of a porblem with this a few years ago when I did. However, my parents were and often still are the worst when it comes to this. I understand that it's good for my parents to get to do things alone together, but the measures they've gone through to exclude me from activities with my brother and new sister in law still piss me off just thinkng about it. 
I can acknowledge the fact that by brother and sister in law are more fun to be around than me, but the lengths they've gone through to ditch me (as well as some failed attempts 
) is apalling to me. I've come to feel a sense of satisfaction that when they try and fail to do this to me, that they feel a sense of disappointment about the family event. I usually put up a partial NT facade, so it's not like I'm being rude and bizare to anybody either. 
If I go into anymore detail, I'll probably be pissed for the next week. Maybe if I ever manage to get married, I'll have a formal wedding, not Invite them, and tell them, "Oh, I didn't think you would want to come".[/rant]
I can acknowledge the fact that by brother and sister in law are more fun to be around than me, but the lengths they've gone through to ditch me (as well as some failed attempts ) is apalling to me. I've come to feel a sense of satisfaction that when they try and fail to do this to me, that they feel a sense of disappointment about the family event. I usually put up a partial NT facade, so it's not like I'm being rude and bizare to anybody either. If I go into anymore detail, I'll probably be pissed for the next week. Maybe if I ever manage to get married, I'll have a formal wedding, not Invite them, and tell them, "Oh, I didn't think you would want to come".[/rant]I've been through more or less the same and I can get really bummed out and pissed off at my family, or anybody else that makes a point of excluding me. --And sadly I still do. Rejection hurts, and that's an undeniable constant of the human condition.
However, I've also made it a point to ditch those that have done the same to me . If they don't like me enough to include me, then hey, they're NOT people that I consider 'Freinds' or 'Family' anyways. It's a reciprocal thing. If they they want to exclude me fine, they I'll happily do what I can to ensure that my contact with them is non-existant. Forget half measures, it's all of the way, or not at all. --And it's just that simple.
I don't know what your situation is, but if you're able to get outta there, and break off contact, make haste and do so. At least for a year or two, and see what happens.
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10 Jul 2005, 5:15 pm
10 Jul 2005, 6:47 pm
10 Jul 2005, 9:02 pm
Sean wrote:
GalileoAce wrote:
Sean, Have you told your parents how you feel about this?
GA
GA
They always rationalize that it's somehow my fault and try to put a guilt trip on me for bringing it up. I've argued in circles with them about individual incidents on lots of occasions and nothing ever changes.
Hmm, it's your fault? Oh, guess it's your fault you don't have psychic powers to find out when they're planning some activity they haven't included you in. How cruel!
10 Jul 2005, 9:10 pm
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11 Jul 2005, 5:44 pm
Nomaken wrote:
Sleep. Masturbate. Abuse drugs. Play online games. Talk online. Sleep.
In that order. ^_^
In that order. ^_^
Nomaken, you're somethin' else...
11 Jul 2005, 6:43 pm
