I'll always be a social reject

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26 Aug 2021, 9:58 am

Earthbound_Alien wrote:

if you ever want someone to talk to I won't reject you

Same deal here -- I'll talk to anyone and I won't judge.

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26 Aug 2021, 9:58 am

kraftiekortie wrote:

Thanks, Steve.

When I knew that I'd be a social reject in my 20s, I just started to turn inward, and enjoy reading books and eating copious amounts of pasta

I figure----as long as you don't deliberately hurt somebody---that you're okay even if you're a little cuckoo

foodie here just saying...

love reading too

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26 Aug 2021, 10:15 am

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Thanks all of you. Going through a below par period at present. I don't think 'Autistic Twitter ' has helped. It seems to be packed with people with the worst level of sensory symptoms etc imaginable, while still doing mind bogglingly wonderful things. Plus it's jam packed with highly domineering and confrontational types.

autistic twitter?

The autistic community on Twitter.

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26 Aug 2021, 10:28 am

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People sometimes don't even think I'm all that bright......and they think there's a screw loose somewhere.

Online,I'm very different than IRL. IRL- I struggle to initiate conversations. I get very anxious and tongue tied. My balance is poor. Ditto my coordination & gait. Throw in bad teeth, even by UK standards, and a lot of people would put me in the 'What a f*****g weirdo' category.

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26 Aug 2021, 10:30 am

I know what you mean. My "online" presentation is probably better than my "in-person" presentation, too.

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26 Aug 2021, 11:01 am

I agree that you might want to stay away from social media. I've never used Twitter or Reddit, for example, but they both sound quite vile and dehumanising. I also avoid places where there's even the slightest hint of a hierarchy among my peers, whether autistic or NT. (That obviously includes most of the NT world).

I enjoy talking to you. I don't think you're a social reject at all, and I can relate to what you're going through. My scores are all over the map like yours and I struggle with feeling like I fit in, even with autism communities. I decided to just do the best I can. The word games help because I can use my brain but also laugh or make a few connections at the same time. Would you be interested in playing some of the word games or other witty threads? You're more than welcome to join me in Leap Frog, Leap Frog Revised, Make a Sentence, or any of those threads where you can come and go as you please, and you don't need to make deep conversation.

Sending hugs and best wishes.

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26 Aug 2021, 12:47 pm

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I've always been quite asocial. That's inborn, but has also been affected by things like severe social anxiety/periodic failed attempts at F2F socialising with others. The social hierarchy in the autistic world is little different than that of the NT world. There are those that are very popular, and those,like myself, who are social rejects.
I thought I'd fit in better ,at least online,with other autistic people.That's not the case.

Perhaps it's par for the course with ASD + schizophrenia.

I'm very much a social reject too

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26 Aug 2021, 12:49 pm

firemonkey wrote:

Perhaps 'rejected' is too strong re this forum. I find it immensely difficult to truly fit in, be it here or any other forum. It's like I can open the first door, but then there's another door leading to the inner sanctum that I'm completely unable to open.

I very much understand what you feel

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26 Aug 2021, 12:52 pm

Steve1963 wrote:

I feel the same way, firemonkey. I don't have the skills to make a deeper connection with people.

It's very interesting. My problem is that make incredibly deep connections with people but they are not able to make them with me

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26 Aug 2021, 12:55 pm

Firemonkey would be great at Leap Frog!

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26 Aug 2021, 1:05 pm

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firemonkey wrote:

I am autistic but developed schizophrenia at age 43

I was autistic First though. my dad was autistic as well

if you ever want someone to talk to I won't reject you

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26 Aug 2021, 1:06 pm

Steve1963 wrote:

Earthbound_Alien wrote:

if you ever want someone to talk to I won't reject you

Same deal here -- I'll talk to anyone and I won't judge.

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26 Aug 2021, 1:54 pm

IsabellaLinton wrote:

I think you and others make good points about social media. The vast majority of my tweets are about ASD/Politics/Mental illness.
The political stuff can get quite nasty, but my comments also get 'liked' by some people. I make regular use of the blocking option in a way I don't when it comes to ASD.

I'll check out those games you've mentioned.

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26 Aug 2021, 5:57 pm

firemonkey wrote:

Hmm. I'm relatively new here, but since I started going through the forums yours is one of the names that pop up on a regular basis, you've been around here for a good six years, and have made close to five thousand posts.
I immediately considered you to be one of the in-crowd.
What you are feeling does not seem to reflect the facts.

Just my two cents

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26 Aug 2021, 6:43 pm

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A lot of it is stuff that doesn't interest people. I'm terrible at gauging such things.

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27 Aug 2021, 11:17 am

firemonkey wrote:

A_minor wrote:

firemonkey wrote:

A lot of it is stuff that doesn't interest people. I'm terrible at gauging such things.

I feel that way too

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