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Nightwing82
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04 May 2025, 11:57 am

Mikurotoro92 wrote:
^dating and relationships are a game of chance

That's how I see it but there are things you can change & do to give yourself more of a competitive edge in dating

The way to win in the game of dating is to rig the results in your favor by making yourself more attractive to another person! ! !

I have successfully made it to the other side but it has been a LONG lonely and hard journey to even get there!


I can't make myself younger. It's already too late at my age.



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04 May 2025, 2:31 pm

Nightwing82 wrote:
Mikurotoro92 wrote:
^dating and relationships are a game of chance

That's how I see it but there are things you can change & do to give yourself more of a competitive edge in dating

The way to win in the game of dating is to rig the results in your favor by making yourself more attractive to another person! ! !

I have successfully made it to the other side but it has been a LONG lonely and hard journey to even get there!


I can't make myself younger. It's already too late at my age.


That is just a limiting belief by your subconscious

It is NOT too late!! !

But you have to take the first step!



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04 May 2025, 5:22 pm

Did you seriously just say that the inability to reverse the aging process is just a limiting belief?

What are you smoking?



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04 May 2025, 5:32 pm

Nightwing82 wrote:
Did you seriously just say that the inability to reverse the aging process is just a limiting belief?

What are you smoking?


No no...of course not!! !

Aging is inevitable!

I was referring to the second part of your post about saying it's too late for you to find love

THAT is the limiting belief and it can be challenged!



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04 May 2025, 6:24 pm

Nightwing82 wrote:
I'm over 40. If I had any qualities anyone could find attractive, someone already would have by now...The odds of finding some I like who also likes me is impossible.

Oh! You didn't want advice or a different perspective. You wanted to complain. This was a vent post. Sorry, my bad, I read it wrong. I wish you luck, regardless. :heart:



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04 May 2025, 6:34 pm

Mikurotoro92 wrote:
Nightwing82 wrote:
Did you seriously just say that the inability to reverse the aging process is just a limiting belief?

What are you smoking?


No no...of course not!! !

Aging is inevitable!

I was referring to the second part of your post about saying it's too late for you to find love

THAT is the limiting belief and it can be challenged!


I don't even like women my own age anymore. What am I going to have in common with someone who's been a parent for half her life? And doesn't mean I want to date someone half my age like a perv either. Besides, men my age are expected to have sexual experience; no woman wants a 40 year old virgin. Plus I have ED so I'm unable to satisfy a woman. And finally, if women didn't want me when I was younger and in better shape, why would they now?



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22 May 2025, 1:41 pm

DuckHairback wrote:
Physically and behaviourally flawed people are coupling up, living physically and behaviourally flawed lives together and finding each other's physically flawed bodies attractive enough to have aesthetically unappealing but sensationally enjoyable intercourse... [...]

The trap is closing yourself off to the possibility. Once you do that you get bitter and then you're really screwed.

I did so in the past (I had to protect myself against girls). When I was young, I knew I was autistic (of course I still am), but it came never into my mind that there are girls with same characteristics and same interests like me. I saw only teenager girls that either were not interested or faked interest.

Now there is a woman in which this is the case. I am not sure whether she is autistic. I suspect she is, but we love eachother very much. There are many common interests.

It is such a pitty why this didn't happen way earlier. I wish I found a Dutch woman way earlier, with the same traits like my current Russian girlfriend.



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22 May 2025, 2:32 pm

hmk66 wrote:
DuckHairback wrote:
Physically and behaviourally flawed people are coupling up, living physically and behaviourally flawed lives together and finding each other's physically flawed bodies attractive enough to have aesthetically unappealing but sensationally enjoyable intercourse... [...]

The trap is closing yourself off to the possibility. Once you do that you get bitter and then you're really screwed.

I did so in the past (I had to protect myself against girls). When I was young, I knew I was autistic (of course I still am), but it came never into my mind that there are girls with same characteristics and same interests like me. I saw only teenager girls that either were not interested or faked interest.

Now there is a woman in which this is the case. I am not sure whether she is autistic. I suspect she is, but we love eachother very much. There are many common interests.

It is such a pitty why this didn't happen way earlier. I wish I found a Dutch woman way earlier, with the same traits like my current Russian girlfriend.


I've met plenty of women with similar traits to the one describe. But they too were either already married or not interested in dating me. Just like every other woman. So will not make any difference which is meaningful for my situation. Besides, even if I meet someone like your Russian girlfriend now it won't matter because its already too late at my age.



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22 May 2025, 5:01 pm

I see you completely bypassed what Rhapsody said..



Nightwing82
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22 May 2025, 7:54 pm

Coilette_91 wrote:
I see you completely bypassed what Rhapsody said..


No. You bypassed my response to what she said. She means well, but I've been told the same thing for over 20 years. But nothing good has ever happened for me in my entire life, and now I'm too old.