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Continue or abandon marriage/motherhood goal?
Continue!! ! 23%  23%  [ 3 ]
Call it quits!! ! 77%  77%  [ 10 ]
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Mikurotoro92
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06 Feb 2026, 11:34 pm

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Marriage is overrated. Simply obsessing over it will get you nowhere. The more you keep wanting it, the less likely it'll happen. Focus on other things you want to do, finding true love will come later.


The thing is, I was VERY close with David only for it to fall apart near the end of our courtship/dating phase!! !

It's not his fault though, just how things turned out!



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07 Feb 2026, 6:40 am

Mikurotoro92 wrote:
UncannyDanny wrote:
Marriage is overrated. Simply obsessing over it will get you nowhere. The more you keep wanting it, the less likely it'll happen. Focus on other things you want to do, finding true love will come later.


The thing is, I was VERY close with David only for it to fall apart near the end of our courtship/dating phase!! !

It's not his fault though, just how things turned out!

I thought he cheated on you. How is not his fault if he cheated on you?



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07 Feb 2026, 3:29 pm

Texasmoneyman300 wrote:
Mikurotoro92 wrote:
UncannyDanny wrote:
Marriage is overrated. Simply obsessing over it will get you nowhere. The more you keep wanting it, the less likely it'll happen. Focus on other things you want to do, finding true love will come later.


The thing is, I was VERY close with David only for it to fall apart near the end of our courtship/dating phase!! !

It's not his fault though, just how things turned out!

I thought he cheated on you. How is not his fault if he cheated on you?

Yeah, that doesn't really make much sense to me either.... :|


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07 Feb 2026, 6:08 pm

If you don't want to give up on the parenting goal, you could always adopt a Hatsune Miku plush to raise. :nerdy:


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10 Feb 2026, 6:01 am

Texasmoneyman300 wrote:
Mikurotoro92 wrote:
UncannyDanny wrote:
Marriage is overrated. Simply obsessing over it will get you nowhere. The more you keep wanting it, the less likely it'll happen. Focus on other things you want to do, finding true love will come later.


The thing is, I was VERY close with David only for it to fall apart near the end of our courtship/dating phase!! !

It's not his fault though, just how things turned out!

I thought he cheated on you. How is not his fault if he cheated on you?


Okay I might as well just say the truth!

David did NOT cheat on me, he got murdered!! !

I just didn't want to admit that because I am still in shock so I concocted the "cheating" story to hide that fact!

He died on January 15th this year from Cardiac Arrest complications but the reason I specifically said he got "murdered" is based on the negative reviews of the rehab facility where he stayed at (you can look up "Kindred Hospital" on Google if you want to see what people are saying about what the hospital did to their families!! !)

I have reason to suspect the hospital did something to David to provoke Cardiac Arrest and cause his heart to stop!

Most likely by deliberately poisoning him or from a drug overdose

Prior to this, David had absolutely NO record or history of Cardiac Arrest or heart conditions in general at least to my knowledge, not to mention he felt fine earlier in the day which suggests that something changed between the point where he was still alive up to when he passed away!! !! !!

Also, he was cremated without receiving an autopsy

Don't you find that strange?

I'm not so sure if I even want marriage and motherhood anymore...



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10 Feb 2026, 7:48 am

8O

You...He...?

I-I deeply apologize for your loss, Miss Mikuro. :(

Yeah, I highly understand how some b@$#@rds deliberately put down those who are different all because they refuse to understand them, like the bloody MAGAns! :evil:


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10 Feb 2026, 7:58 am

You're in no position to contemplate marriage. Work on keeping a relationship together first. If that works for a while, you can entertain the idea of marriage.

You're putting the cart before the horse with this MARRIAGE first, successful relationship second, crap.



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10 Feb 2026, 1:19 pm

Mikurotoro92 wrote:
Also, he was cremated without receiving an autopsy

Don't you find that strange?

I'm not so sure if I even want marriage and motherhood anymore...
My girlfriend lost her dad & her aunt partly because of hospital screwups. Cass had some bad experiences herself at their ER with doctors being very dismissive & gasslighting. All at the same hospital but University Of Vermont Medical Center has a major stronghold over the medical system here. Second opinions have a vested interest in protecting each other & covering up mistakes.

You need to take time to focus on grieving as well as trying to live your life & figuring out how to manage the sudden change of plans. Do what you need to take care yourself. Having another relationships can wait. This community will be here for you.


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10 Feb 2026, 3:47 pm

nick007 wrote:
Mikurotoro92 wrote:
Also, he was cremated without receiving an autopsy

Don't you find that strange?

I'm not so sure if I even want marriage and motherhood anymore...
My girlfriend lost her dad & her aunt partly because of hospital screwups. Cass had some bad experiences herself at their ER with doctors being very dismissive & gasslighting. All at the same hospital but University Of Vermont Medical Center has a major stronghold over the medical system here. Second opinions have a vested interest in protecting each other & covering up mistakes.

You need to take time to focus on grieving as well as trying to live your life & figuring out how to manage the sudden change of plans. Do what you need to take care yourself. Having another relationships can wait. This community will be here for you.


Thank you WP for the support!! !

Yes, I am 100% fully convinced that this is EXACTLY what happened!

The hospital murdered David!!

I think because I'm so hyper-focused on the marriage goal I should take a step back and ask myself if this is something I truly want to continue pursuing...



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10 Feb 2026, 6:13 pm

How have you dealt with the grief? Is there anyone you can talk to about it?


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10 Feb 2026, 7:38 pm

I am so sorry for your loss...you have my deepest sympathies.



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12 Feb 2026, 5:52 pm

MaxE wrote:
How have you dealt with the grief? Is there anyone you can talk to about it?


I have a therapist but I have to wait until I can go back to see her

However, she is already aware of this!



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21 Jul 2026, 4:01 am

Mikurotoro92 wrote:
He died on January 15th this year from Cardiac Arrest complications but the reason I specifically said he got "murdered" is based on the negative reviews of the rehab facility where he stayed at (you can look up "Kindred Hospital" on Google if you want to see what people are saying about what the hospital did to their families!! !)

If the place has lots of bad reviews, then it might possible to find a medical malpractice lawyer who would be interested in a class action lawsuit against them. You would not have to pay said lawyer unless the suit is successful.


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21 Jul 2026, 5:57 pm

Mona Pereth wrote:
Mikurotoro92 wrote:
He died on January 15th this year from Cardiac Arrest complications but the reason I specifically said he got "murdered" is based on the negative reviews of the rehab facility where he stayed at (you can look up "Kindred Hospital" on Google if you want to see what people are saying about what the hospital did to their families!! !)

If the place has lots of bad reviews, then it might possible to find a medical malpractice lawyer who would be interested in a class action lawsuit against them. You would not have to pay said lawyer unless the suit is successful.


Well, his sister Tami would have to be the one to hire a lawyer and she is doing exactly that!! !

I really do believe David was murdered based on what you said about the rehab facility having LOTS of scathing reviews...



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21 Jul 2026, 6:39 pm

Mona Pereth wrote:
If the place has lots of bad reviews, then it might possible to find a medical malpractice lawyer who would be interested in a class action lawsuit against them. You would not have to pay said lawyer unless the suit is successful.


Mikurotoro92 wrote:
I really do believe David was murdered based on what you said about the rehab facility having LOTS of scathing reviews...


Didn't Mona only make a conditional statement about the facility's reviews? "If the place has bad reviews..." isn't saying the place has bad reviews, it's just telling something that would follow under the condition that it has bad reviews.

Unless I've misread things somewhere.


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21 Jul 2026, 7:09 pm

funeralxempire wrote:
Mona Pereth wrote:
If the place has lots of bad reviews, then it might possible to find a medical malpractice lawyer who would be interested in a class action lawsuit against them. You would not have to pay said lawyer unless the suit is successful.


Mikurotoro92 wrote:
I really do believe David was murdered based on what you said about the rehab facility having LOTS of scathing reviews...


Didn't Mona only make a conditional statement about the facility's reviews? "If the place has bad reviews..." isn't saying the place has bad reviews, it's just telling something that would follow under the condition that it has bad reviews.

Unless I've misread things somewhere.


I believe Mona was agreeing with me about the reviews but you could be right about it being a conditional statement

Which means...I have no choice but to show you guys the REAL HORRIFYING TRUTH about Kindred Hospital!! !! !!

Then you will get to see first-hand what I have been talking about and how murder was a VERY LIKELY scenario for David!! !

EDIT: And if he really truly was murdered...what was the catalyst for committing the heinous act & how was it carried out?

Regarding a possible motive there is ONE explanation that would make a hell of a lot of sense considering the way the case has unfolded up to this point...

Kindred Hospital killed David Farrow...to stop him from getting married!! !! !!

100% Plausible, is it not?!?



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