Peri wrote:
As to the "female" stuff: You might find that she's not interested in "being a girl" as in putting on all the pretend garbage that is culturally loaded onto females. She may not want to do makeup, may dress like a trucker, may not like boys. She might prefer playing in the dirt to playing with dolls. That sort of thing (my own daughter was obsessive about programming the computer starting at age six and didn't want to play with the other kids - they were stupid). If so, that's the way she is. You kind of have to accept the kid for who she is and not try to mold her into something she's not. My own kid did the "dress like a trucker" thing for years and then, when she hit age 15, some internal switch flipped almost overnight and she became the make-up expert in her school. She wears a lot of it, wears it well, and is into dressing up to the nines. If she could wear hats and gloves every day she would, and she covets 1940s hairstyles. NO idea where that chromosome came from... but it's her, so it's ok. It makes her happy, so it makes me happy.
Megan is quite the opposite. She loves makeup and clothes. In fact, she wants to be a fashion designeer when she grows up. SHe loves dance and all the girlie stuff! And boys? Is it normal for a 9yo to be boy-crazy?[/quote]
Unfortunately, I see that around me every day. The kids are being asked to grow up too soon, all the behaviours that are modeled for them are really more appropriate for someone half-a-dozen years older. I see 10year old girls at our local mall that are dressed like cheap hookers, and they are out with their mothers! So, is it the chicken, or the egg? Dunno.
11 Mar 2008, 7:11 pm
