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21 Apr 2011, 6:44 pm

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i've never specifically asked anyone their opinion on my looks. but i have sometimes gotten some positive feedback either in real life or when i post pic, which is nice to hear. my self-esteem doesn't rely only on outside observations though. it matters more to me when someone takes one of my comments to heart or if they appreciate something intangible about me, an ultimately it's my own opinion about myself that matters most.


thats the healthy attitude.


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21 Apr 2011, 6:50 pm

No I never ask people this question. I already have trouble with self-esteem the last thing I'd want is someone telling me an honest answer. I never really understood the purpose of this question some girls incessantly ask.


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21 Apr 2011, 6:50 pm

No I never ask people this question. I already have trouble with self-esteem the last thing I'd want is someone telling me an honest answer. I never really understood the purpose of this question some girls incessantly ask.


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21 Apr 2011, 11:23 pm

poopylungstuffing wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
i've never specifically asked anyone their opinion on my looks. but i have sometimes gotten some positive feedback either in real life or when i post pic, which is nice to hear. my self-esteem doesn't rely only on outside observations though. it matters more to me when someone takes one of my comments to heart or if they appreciate something intangible about me, an ultimately it's my own opinion about myself that matters most.


thats the healthy attitude.

hey thanks! i just realized i made it sound like i am a pillar of confidence and i am really not. i still have major insecurities and everything. but this is mostly how i operate.


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22 Apr 2011, 12:33 am

No, asking a question like this is like poking a sleeping dragon in the eye.



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22 Apr 2011, 12:47 am

I've never asked anybody that question, before.


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22 Apr 2011, 4:08 pm

No, mainly because that would make it sound like I'm fishing for compliments and they will probably lie to me just to please me. Therefore, I just let people say I am pretty by themselves without anything from me.



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18 May 2011, 12:31 pm

I did ask my mother once. She gave an affirmative response, as a mother would, but I wasn't especially convinced. After that, I just came to expect lies, and therefore never saw the point in asking anybody else...



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19 May 2011, 6:27 am

slovaksiren wrote:
No, mainly because that would make it sound like I'm fishing for compliments and they will probably lie to me just to please me. Therefore, I just let people say I am pretty by themselves without anything from me.


This is true. Generally people will only ask you this if they are a) indeed fishing for compliments or b) incredibly neurotic!

Its ok to ask, say, "Does this dress suit me?" or "is this shade of lipstick too dark?" that's just normal girl talk. I would only ask my mother or my close friends because they will be honest.



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19 May 2011, 5:43 pm

I asked my husband, once. He seemed confused, and told me he fell in love with me for the sound of my voice (? 8O !), my intelligence ( 8O 8O 8O ) and the way I am. That's more than good enough for me.

It's bizarre, but my only real friend (male, almost definitely AS and living on the other side of the world) is the only person ever to tell me I'm beautiful. In one of our brief face to face encounters he said 'Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and as long as I'm the one doing the beholding you will always be beautiful'. I'd rather have that one genuine compliment to treasure than a cartload of false flattery.



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21 May 2011, 2:33 pm

Grazia wrote:
I'd rather have that one genuine compliment to treasure than a cartload of false flattery.

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