I've got to wear glasses

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you're wearing them!

I don't see the link between wearing glasses and being seen as looking more aspie. I think it may be an irrational fear that is only inside you and no-one else seeing you will have such a thought. There are lots of modern-looking glasses nowadays anyway that I think improve many people's appearance. I have an astigmatism and I think my glasses add to my appearance when I choose to use them - which is for detailed and focused work like when using a computer for my job. I think you will get used to wearing them very quickly, but it will certainly feel odd and uncomfortable initially if my experience is anything to go by. Just wait until you get your first compliment

my glasses augment my appearance.

The ones who need them probably wear contacts.

I've been wearing glasses since I was 12. Reading glasses (bifocals) since about age 41.

I had the "triad" in junior high: glasses, braces, and being a fatso. I was bullied pretty mercilessly---but I got over it.

My vision, recently, has gotten to the point where I could probably survive most of the time without glasses. A few times when I lost my glasses, I drove without my glasses. But I can't do that all the time.

My father was quite nearsighted---but my mother (until recently) and my brother never needed glasses. I've never seen my 66-year-old brother even wear reading glasses. My father wore contacts even in the 1950s.

Anyway......girls with glasses do get passes from me!

I wear a pair that has a prescription that is twenty years old, because the frames and lenses are super light, and I have a pair with a more recent prescription that is much heavier and I don;t like to wear them at all. One of these days I need to ask if I can get a newer prescription in a lighter pair. I remember my first pair cost a lot more than my second one.

THere's no stigma to wearing glasses in my profession or social circles.

At the moment I am squinting and not wearing any glasses

When I was 16, a Dr told me that I needed glasses for 20/30 vision

When I was 30 I got a pair of glasses and wore them for a couple of weeks

When I was 33 and renewed drivers license, they told me that I could drive without glasses

Now I am 39 and it doesn't really seem like I need glasses

However I don't have a car and my job is not in front of a computer screen

Glasses always felt uncomfortable

Actually for a couple of months, at work I wore safety goggles (I work in a warehouse) the entire shifts, to try to get used to wearing glasses

Since Covid, glasses get fogged up from masks

When glasses not fogged up, sometimes in the afternoon I forget that I am wearing glasses

Actually it took over a year for me to get used to wearing a mask since Covid

Now I still feel uncomfortable with a mask but it is not as bad as in the start of coronavirus

Exactly, which is why I think glasses aren't as cool or attractive as what people say (maybe it's an American thing?) Otherwise more young celebrities would be wearing glasses even if they don't need them.

I do envy people who don't need glasses.

I would go for laser eye surgery but I suppose that has a catch, plus it's expensive.

They make glasses with thin wire frames. They also make rimless glasses.

Glasses can be as fashionable as you want them to be. It's really about Fit for your face - if someone can find a GREAT fitting/looking pair for cheap, right on! Kinda like clothing.. doesn't matter the price, if it's ill fitting it just doesn't look very good.

My last two pair I've bought from a shop that deals in more obscure designer brands vs. super common frames, so I can have something a little more fashionable vs. generic. I figured I'd splurge since I wear them every day - they're my one fashionable trendy expensive accessory I guess.

You forgot to mention you were also autistic.

I was nearsighted ever since 18 but I never wear glasses nor contacts. My vision is -2.5 and been that way multiple years, so I am used to it.

The reason I do this is because I believe it would help me grasp at whatever straw that maybe just maybe my vision would improve some day. But if I were to wear glasses this would pretty much stop vision from ever improving.

Now I know what I just said is controversial and might well be wrong. But I am not sure why would someone give you an opposite advise and say you *have* to wear glasses. I mean glasses aren't actually "healing" anything, they just help you see. So if you are well adjusted without them, then what do you have to lose? Even if you tell me my theory about training the eyes is utterly wrong, wouldn't it then simply "not matter" if you wear them or not?

The way not wearing glasses hurts me, personally, is that it makes my social interactions worse. Particularly since part of my social skills problem is not recognizing people. Which I guess was the case even back when my vision was good, but having bad vision on top of it certainly doesn't help. But in this case it should be my psychologist that should be telling me to wear glasses, not eye doctor. Because from the point of view of eye health, I simply don't see how glasses help anything.

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Wasn't true in my case. I pretty much know *exactly* when my vision went bad. So, in August 1997 I had to go to the physical to join high school cross country running team. Among other things they did eye test. My vision was 20/20 (I don't know how they call it in England but in America 20/20 means good vision). Then, in January 1998 I had hair in my eyes that I thought was obstructnig my eyesight. But then, at around Feburary 1998, I got disappointed when, after the haircut, things were still blury. So that pretty much zeros in that I became nearsighted some time after August 1997 and some time before Feburary 1998. I turned 18 on December 1997. So if anything it just fits the stereotype that adults (18+) have bad vision and children (under 18) don't.

Thats nonesense. Not wearing glasses can help (best case scenario) or leave things the same (worst case scenario). It can't make you blind.

My experience is different. I tend to see adults of all ages (both 20-s and 40-s) wearing glasses. I don't know if it is a cultural thing (as in, in America it is more common than in England) or the university thing (as in I spend a lot of time at the university and those people have glasses because they read a lot). But I definitely don't think wearing glasses would make you stand out in any bad way -- unless your culture is totally different from anything I seen.

The only relationship between "old age" and glasses that I am aware of is that younger adults tend to be near-sighted and older adults tend to be far-sighted. So if you have someone far-sighted in their 20-s, then yeah I would say thats weird. But if they are near-sighted at 20, that is perfectly normal. As a matter of fact, it sometimes happens that somone is near-sighted in their 20-s, but then when they reach 50-s their far-sightedness compenstes over near-sightedness and they aren't near-sighted any more. So ironically it is a bit of an opposite to what you were thinking.

I would, however, still reiterate that I don't think wearing glasses is good for your eyes. So if you are used to not wearing them, I suggest you don't.