Why I left social media.

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I have logged out of Facebook and am planning my exit strategy. That is place is a major contributor to the unpleasant state of my brain this past couple of of years. In theory it's good for staying in touch with people, but somehow that isn't what actually happens.

^ It is perfectly reasonable to deactivate or delete your account on Facebook, either temporarily or for good.

One thing that's bothering me - the main alternative for the hobbyist stuff I'm into is forums, and forums are an absolute crapshoot. There are lovely forums, and there are forums that make social media look enlightened. I walked out on a forum for pianists after only 2 months - I'd never met such a bunch of insanely quarrelsome and arrogant nitwits before, and I was HERE at the height of the far-right troll boom. Say "good morning" to some of those specimens and they'd crucify you for it.

Yeah, unfortunately, the alternatives to places like Facebook often are not much better, but at least forums are relatively anonymous compared to Facebook and its structure which seems to encourage personal data to be shared.

On Facebook, if you choose not to have a profile picture or share much personal information including photos, you are sometimes viewed by other people as a suspicious account.

I remember on new year's day in 2014 I deactivated my Facebook account because I had a meltdown at seeing all my cousins had gone to parties with their friends the night before and had met a boy/girlfriend and was announcing it all over Facebook. I should have been happy for them but my heart just broke because it was a reminder that I had no friends, never went out to parties, and didn't have a boyfriend.

But it said that it will take 14 days to be gone, which made it really hard because the temptations of returning kept nagging me before the 14 days were up. I felt lonely and like I was missing out, so I gave in and logged back in. I was still depressed at seeing everyone's happiness in their timelines but somehow I managed to stay on Facebook.

They must have been different in 2014. I wanted to delete my account but it would take 14 days to go unless you logged back in before the 14 days are up. I tried deactivating my account but kept getting the urge to log back in every day. I do have addictive behaviours when it comes to socialising online.

Maybe the rules are different now, but I haven't attempted to deactivate or delete my account for a few years now, as I haven't had much grief on Facebook and people don't really post about their social/love lives any more, as we're all older now and settled into adult life. Back in 2014 all my cousins were young (teens and 20s) so going out clubbing and meeting new people was appealing to them. The novelty of all that finally wore off before age 30.

Yeah, it must have been 14 days not 30 days, back in 2014.

I think the pressure on young adults on social media is quite high and like you say, the whole competition of social media seems to be less as people get older and care less about what other people think of them or grow out of the childish social competitions for who looks the best on social media?

When I need the number from somebody, I register on facebook and delete my account after getting the number from him/her
I see no other use of facebook, than to find people by name.

I'm new here and also new to hiki App. Both was recommended by Grok.
So far I like it