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13 Apr 2023, 4:15 am

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I feel like this is a trick question, as the answer appears blatantly obvious - f**k no!

If this is something that happened decades ago then parents attitudes & life was different then.


Its never a trick question with me. It happened to me years ago. I can only just remember it and it's always been a mystery to me because I didn't know the woman involved, I never saw her again and I was never allowed to ever mention the incident ever again. I just find it really weird. I don't think anything bad happened to me and as far as I remember it wasn't even an unpleasant experience.


It sounds suspicious.
You have D.I.D., right?



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13 Apr 2023, 4:40 am

Yes. I have a feeling the dissociative disorder started after that.


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13 Apr 2023, 4:42 am

I was gonna talk to my T about it but I don't wanna waste my session talking about something that didn't cause me any trauma. It's more of a mystery.


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13 Apr 2023, 4:47 am

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Yes. I have a feeling the dissociative disorder started after that.


Yep...
Amnesia is part of the deal.



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13 Apr 2023, 4:48 am

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I was gonna talk to my T about it but I don't wanna waste my session talking about something that didn't cause me any trauma. It's more of a mystery.



A dissociative disorder is the result of trauma.



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13 Apr 2023, 5:38 am

Yes it is. I'm just saying that I don't think that particular incident was before the original trauma occurred.

We pinpointed the original trauma and it was a near death experience. And then ongoing trauma after that point.


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13 Apr 2023, 8:02 am

Could it have been a social worker?
I would never let my kids out with a stranger.Or in a room alone with them.


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13 Apr 2023, 9:09 am

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Could it have been a social worker?
I would never let my kids out with a stranger.Or in a room alone with them.


No she wasn't a social worker. She was referred to the centre where my mother was in charge.

The thing is is that my mother let me go off with her. It was highly inappropriate because my mother would have been in a position of responsibility because of her job. I'm thinking that's why it had to be kept as a secret because she would have got fired for crossing that boundary.

Anything could have happened to me when you think about it.


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13 Apr 2023, 9:12 am

I'd want to know what your mother was doing at that time.
Why was she so desperate to get a sitter and hide the fact?
It seems like your mother might have been doing something dodgy herself.
Maybe she had a special appointment to attend?
But that's my analytical brain going.


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13 Apr 2023, 9:22 am

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I'd want to know what your mother was doing at that time.
Why was she so desperate to get a sitter and hide the fact?
It seems like your mother might have been doing something dodgy herself.
Maybe she had a special appointment to attend?
But that's my analytical brain going.


Mmmmm good thinking.

The centre where she worked was run by the social services so my mother would have been in a kind of social worker role. What she did was highly unorthodox.

Also if we're talking about a playdate the centre had a nursery upstairs which was run by a nursery nurse.

I believe that during that time my mother and the nursery nurse were having an extra marital lesbian love affair.

Maybe she was getting me out of the way.


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14 Apr 2023, 8:14 pm

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Yes it is. I'm just saying that I don't think that particular incident was before the original trauma occurred.

We pinpointed the original trauma and it was a near death experience. And then ongoing trauma after that point.

If its important enough for you to talk about like this then its important enough to talk to your therapist about it.



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15 Apr 2023, 2:09 am

Yes it is you're right.


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17 Apr 2023, 9:18 am

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Yes it is. I'm just saying that I don't think that particular incident was before the original trauma occurred.

We pinpointed the original trauma and it was a near death experience. And then ongoing trauma after that point.

If its important enough for you to talk about like this then its important enough to talk to your therapist about it.


I actually did bring it up in my session today. It was relevant to my history so thanks for encouraging me to do that.


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17 Apr 2023, 3:54 pm

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17 Apr 2023, 6:28 pm

Pepe wrote:
babybird wrote:
I was gonna talk to my T about it but I don't wanna waste my session talking about something that didn't cause me any trauma. It's more of a mystery.



A dissociative disorder is the result of trauma.


Generally, although Alice in Wonderland Syndrome can do that as well. Although it's rare for that to last more than a short period of time. From what I've read fewer than 200 cases have shown up that were severe enough and long lived enough to conduct real research on.



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17 Apr 2023, 6:48 pm

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Pepe wrote:
babybird wrote:
I was gonna talk to my T about it but I don't wanna waste my session talking about something that didn't cause me any trauma. It's more of a mystery.



A dissociative disorder is the result of trauma.


Generally, although Alice in Wonderland Syndrome can do that as well. Although it's rare for that to last more than a short period of time. From what I've read fewer than 200 cases have shown up that were severe enough and long lived enough to conduct real research on.


"Daydreaming" is also a type of "Hypnotic Trance State".
Common and usually benign.