Why won't people just admit it?

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In college I was pursued by a woman I did not feel attracted to at all. I thought to myself that since I am always upset that I can't get a girlfriend, I should be open to giving this woman a try. Pretty much the same thing suggested by the OP. So, what happened next? I was love bombed at first. But as soon as I was settled in the devaluing phase began.

After we were in a minor car accident, she told me someone on the scene claimed I lied to the police about my age and demanded a background check. She claimed her cousin recognized me from high school and said I had did doing drugs; despite the fact we did not even go to high school in the same country. I was socially isolated and gaslighted. She slowly isolated me, making up reasons why I should stop associating with all of my friends; until my entire social circle consisted of her small group of friends and stopped socializing with anyone else. She frequently used threats of leaving me unless I appeased her every whim. And I was slowly conditioned until I was afraid of going anywhere or buying anything without her approval.

After two years of this abuse, she broke with me over the phone when I was going through one of the most difficult times of my life. I graduated college in the middle of a recession and was struggling to find employment. She called me a loser and compared me to deadbeats and drug addicts. Then she and her flying monkeys went around spreading lies about me abusing her and cheating on her. Following these events, I was involuntarily held in an inpatient facility after attempting suicide.

But the OP would still like you to believe that I'm just being a snotty brat for not wanting to settle.